No More Statute of Limitations in Child Sex Cases?
Update: I am heartened by the statements by Rep. Keel and Sen. Whitmire, the chairmen of the House and Senate Criminal Justice Committees, respectively, about this bad bill. As for Rep. Riddle and Sen. Ellis, the sponsors of the bill, I still must ask them--how is it harmful to ask that an alleged victim report the abuse within ten years of their 18th birthday? I'm sure there will be some victims who won't report in that time period (many never will report), but you have to balance that against the rights of the accused. Crime bills aren't just about victims. They are also about who will face the deprivation of their freedom potentially for the rest of their lives.
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The state legislature is considering a bill that would eliminate the statute of limitations in child sex cases. If this bill passes, anyone could be charged with one of the most heinous crimes in the world, and threatened with life in prison, 30 years or more after it allegedly happened. How are you supposed to defend yourself against an accusation like that? Currently, the Texas statute doesn't run until ten years after the alleged victim's 18th birthday. Extending it beyond that, in my opinion, is a complete violation of due process. The chance of being able to find favorable witnesses, establish an alibi, or discover exculpatory physical evidence would be virtually, if not completely, impossible. It also opens the door to cases involving the completely discredited "repressed memories." I understand that the state has a strong interest in protecting society against child molesters, but at some point, these alleged victims have to take some responsibility for reporting the alleged crime. I think giving them ten years after they turn 18 is enough.
And one more thing on this subject . . . The article I linked to above has the same old quote from a prosecutor about how hard these cases are to prosecute, blah blah blah. Not where I live, they aren't. Juries routinely convict people charged with child molestation on the word of the alleged victim alone--even in cases with no physical evidence, no eyewitnesses, and glaringly inconsistent statements from the alleged victim. Many jurors still believe that no child would ever lie about such a thing, and when such heinous accusations are made, the presumption of innocence often goes out the window.
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The state legislature is considering a bill that would eliminate the statute of limitations in child sex cases. If this bill passes, anyone could be charged with one of the most heinous crimes in the world, and threatened with life in prison, 30 years or more after it allegedly happened. How are you supposed to defend yourself against an accusation like that? Currently, the Texas statute doesn't run until ten years after the alleged victim's 18th birthday. Extending it beyond that, in my opinion, is a complete violation of due process. The chance of being able to find favorable witnesses, establish an alibi, or discover exculpatory physical evidence would be virtually, if not completely, impossible. It also opens the door to cases involving the completely discredited "repressed memories." I understand that the state has a strong interest in protecting society against child molesters, but at some point, these alleged victims have to take some responsibility for reporting the alleged crime. I think giving them ten years after they turn 18 is enough.
And one more thing on this subject . . . The article I linked to above has the same old quote from a prosecutor about how hard these cases are to prosecute, blah blah blah. Not where I live, they aren't. Juries routinely convict people charged with child molestation on the word of the alleged victim alone--even in cases with no physical evidence, no eyewitnesses, and glaringly inconsistent statements from the alleged victim. Many jurors still believe that no child would ever lie about such a thing, and when such heinous accusations are made, the presumption of innocence often goes out the window.
posted by 123txpublicdefender123 at 5:30 AM
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i was molested by my stepfather when i was 5 years old and i was afraid to come forward because he was a very abusive man and i did't want him to hurt me now i am 23 and am trying to find out my rights and to protect the 3 young girls in this man's house if it says anything aboout this man he got his first cousin pregnant and then married her. My question is why should these perverts be allowed around our children after what they did to us. 10 years after our 18th birthday is not enough time for some people. what we went through will be with us for the rest of our lives so why shouldn't these people pay for the rest of theirs. This man use to make me sit on his penis everytime my mother left the house what rights should he have every day i wish this man was dead. and people who think that they shouldn't get much time and should be protected by the law should take a long hard look at themselves and as yourself if it was you would you feel the same way? if it was your child would you want them to be givin a slapn the wrist for these crimes? i don't think so. i want these people to pay for everything they do to our children. don't you?
I find it interesting and telling that the older the case, the more likely it is the case will go against the defendent. With presumption of innocence, shouldn't it be the other way around? Shouldn't the state be leery of old cases because it makes it harder to proof beyond reasonable doubt. Unless, of course, that presumption of innocence is an illusion. The first anonymous proves this point well - Your post talks about how easily a person (presumed innocent) can be convicted, without real proof. The tone of your post was about innocent people be subject to false allegation - But the first anonymous is completely puzzled by your post and practically asks you why you condone child abuse. Too many times, people like the first anonymous end up on juries.
In my case, I did report it to the authorities when I was 15. No one did anything to him. He was no longer living in my household and was no longer a direct threat to me. I was tol dby law enforcement that although it could be proven that I was no longer a virgin. It would be impossible to tell whether I lost my virginity last week ot 10 years ago. Of course this was 1980 when I reported it.
Bottom line is that no one cared enough to do anything....What happened to me was of no consequence to him or any other adult im my life...shrinks, mother, step father..they all just swept it under the carpet.
Now here I am 27 years after reporting it to the state police - cleaning the skeletons out of my closet (and his)! He might not be prosecuted for what he has done to me. I do believe that there are additional victims. He will be held accountable.
anita
Yesterday I found out that my father molested two young girls. At the age of 12 I was also mosested by this man. And just like many other victums no one did anythig for me.
When I heard what happened to this two girls, I knew I had to report what he did to me.I should had done this sooner but I feared this man so much.When I went to the station the officer told me that I was 1 year to late. I am 29 years old now.
Im so happy to hear that children have time to process what happened and after they are emotionally well they will have the chance to fight for the justice they deserve. Unfortunatly I was molested as a very small child and at the time my teen abuser and his parents would get him help and begged that they would correct this wrong. Well...as most other enabling parents do they DID NOTHING! So now I have no options as it stands because it's 2 years to late...and the kicker is HE now resides near me and my children. and I am stuck with it! Not fair being IM THE VICTIM!
No children will ever be emotionally well after what the abuser did to them. Look at me I was abused from 5th grade till half of my 12th grade and now it is well over 21 or 22 years later and I will be 40 yrs old in 2 months. I'm not well. I'm on medications, see a therapist every week. My ex-stepdad took everything from me. I'm deaf and hard of hearing and I would get abused everytime I didn't hear my stepdad. I never had a boyfriend since I graduated and now I just have one good friend who is my best friend. I have no other friends. My every day life is affected. Yes, I want this man dead, I even get the newspaper every morning to check to see if he is dead. I'm now wanting this man to pay for what he did. I hope the law passes that the victim can still report it after years of finally getting the courage to do it. The victims suffers the rest of their lives while the abuser lives on to continues to abused their next victims. It doesn't matter how old they are. Grandparents now a day are abusing their own grandkids. Whether you're related to the abuser by marriage or not, their next family will be abused till they are reported and be stopped. Just because we waited too late to help ourselves we can at least save the next victim of a lifetime sufferings.
I am completely disgusted that 123txpublicdefender123 is obviously an attorney. I am sure if her child was molested or raped she would have a totally different view on the subject.Just reading her statement makes me feel ill to my stomach. I am a male who was raped and molested many, many times as a child, by my uncle who turned out to be a homosexual. I turned 40 today and the shame had made me keep this to myself and hidden from everyone until just the last few years. I have had to live with it my entire life and it seems as I get older it haunts me even more. It has also come out that this man also did this to other children.
Because of the statute of limitations I or no one else can do anything to this man. He is free to go about and live his life with his boyfriend. I would like to see this man die and suffer! then I would go to the graveyard and piss on his grave... sounds drastic? not if you have gone through what I and others on here have! 123txpublicdefender123 you obviously have blinders on! Maybe because you had a perfect child hood and have never seen such things... I do not know! For you to take up for these dirt bags puts you on the on the same level as them in my opinion...Law degree or no Law degree...Worthless trash! We can only hope that attorneys like you and ones who share the same views as yours will some how be disbarred!
Anyone who is against the bill obviously has never been subjected to a sex crime (or does not know of anyone who has). Victims don't come forward out of fear--in the vast majority of cases, they are threatened.
But even more to the point, even this day in age, children and women continue to fight for our rights. It is evidenced by the punishments judges and jurors hand out that typically crimes against women and children are lighter than, oh let's say, property crimes. I know...I used to be a parole officer.
SETTING HERE... CRYING... READING THESE ARTICLES BECUSE I PUT STATUE OF LIMITATIONS ON CHILD MOLESTION IN MY SEARCH ... I WAS MOLESTED BY MY DAD FROM AGE 4 TILL 13 AND NOW I AMD 26 AND I AM AFFECTED BY IT EVERYDAY!! IT HURT LIKE HELL THAT MY CHILDHOOD INNOCENCE WAS TAKEN FROM ME, YES, I AM A BETTER PERSON BECAUSE THAT MAN(PUTTING IT NICELY) WILL NOT EVER HURT MY 3 GIRLS... OR ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER.. I WOULD KILL ANYONE WHO WOULD TRY TO MAKE MY GIRLS GO THROUGH WHAT I DID! I THINK ITS VERY HARD TO TELL AND HARDED TO BE BELIVED!!!!!MY NAME IS AMANDA , I WAS BORN 3 MONTHS EARLY ON MY DADDY'S BIRTHDAY...AND THIS IS WHAT HE DID WITH HIS GIFT!!!!!!!
I read all the postings and am so saddened by all of the hurting adults who were abused as children. I was sexually abused by my father starting before I was six years old. I am now 37, and it wasn't until my daughter became the age I was when my father first sexually abused me that I realized the innocence of a 5 yr old, and that it was nothing that I had done that caused him to be that way, he was just a sick and vile man. When I realized that, all that shame and guilt melted away. Not the damage, the hurt, or the childhood of growing up with it, but that burden that it was somehow MY FAULT that he did what he did to me. Why should there be a statute of limitations for the things that he did to me? There is no statute of limitations for my memories, none for my damaged childhood, none for my fears and shame growing up...what makes him the winner in the judicial system by outlasting me through intimidation, threats and violence? Anyone who sexually abuses a minoor should be able to prosecuted when the victim is able to find a way to recover from the abuse, no matter how old they are, and find the courage to prosecute their abuser, and see justice done.
The children aren't the only victims! Those who are wrongly
accused suffer as much. Some say that children can not make this up... I beg to differ!!! Some children can and will lie just to get back at an adult. Innocent people are accused everyday. Those who are wrongly accused live a life sentance of being accused even if the court finds them innocent. There should be statue of limitations for those who went through the god for saking process just because a child wants to get even for someting that did not go their way. I was molested by an uncle when I was a child, I did not tell anyone about it and to this day have not. I did not go to therepy. I did not let that ruin my life. It makes me sick to think about it but I don't let it run my life. I have never let that stop me from moving on. Maybe someday I can tell my husband. I always tell myself, that which dose not kill me will make me stronger!
I was molested and when i was 14 yrs old I was was pregnant by this man and gave birth to his child at age 16 ...I'm from texas , I chose not to disclose this info many yrs ago because i kept the baby. my son is now 24 and i believe I can now tell him what happened. do i have any legal grounds to go after this man ?
OW MY GOD AS I READ ALL OF THIS ALL I CAN DO IS CRY. MY STEP DAD ALSO MOLESTED ME IT STARTED AT AGE 7 WENT ON UNTILL I WAS ALMOST 10 YEARS OLD/I STILL DEAL WITH THIS TODAY. I HAVE PROBLEMS IN MY EVERYDAY LIFE,IN MY MARRIAGE.HE NEVER PAYED FOR WHAT HE DID TO ME.HE IS IN JAIL AT THIS MIN. SERVING TIME FOR THE SAME THING HE DID TO ME.THEY HAVE HIM LISTED AS A LOW RISK SEX AFENDER I EVEN ROTE HIM A LETTER THEY SAY THAT IT HELPS WELL I CANT TELL THAT IT DID.BUT MYMOM LET HIM GET OUT OF JAIL BY WRIGHTING A LETTER TO THE COURTS TOLD THEM I MADE IT ALL UP;(WHAT A LIE)NOW I AM 43 AND I WISH I COULD DO SOMETHING ARE FIND AWAY JUST TO HAVE A CHANCE TO SE HIM IN COURT.BUT I NO THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN. IF THERE IS ANY ONE OUT THERE THAT NEEDS TO TALK I AM ALWAYS WILLING TO LISTEN CAUSE I NO HOW BAD AND DEEP THIS HURTS THANKS MONICA.E MAIL montielynnh@hotmail.com
all of this is extremely sad, i agree, and although i was never sexually abused, i do believe the statue of limitations system is highly flawed. who knows when you will be mentally stable enough to speak up about a sexual act? but the only problem i have is now 30 years after a family member of mine is released from prison for an accidental murder of a baby that he tried to save, the parole officer is trying to send him back for the rest of his life saying he sodomized the baby without proof. i don't know how he is able to do this, but my uncle, who i've seen around kids, was around as a kid, and my mother saw him with the kid he supposedly sodomized years ago, is now having to go back to prison for something that the parole officer "thinks" happened when the victim isn't even alive to testify to what really happened and the baby was custody to drug addict guardians who probably molested the baby before he ever received custody! i don't know how you make ends meet with this. because he cant fight a case where theres no little girl to say she was or wasnt molested. i love my uncle and it makes me sick that they'd accuse them of this. they say he doesn't have to go to jail if just admits to it, but he cries everytime they bring it up because it sickens him, and he refuses to admit something he swears he didn't do, so he has to go to jail for life. how is that fair? i'd like to know.
being the same person that wrote the previous comment, i'd also like to comment on a girl i knew who's stepfather forced her to break up with a guy he thought dangerous to her because he was trying to be a good "dad", and she got pissed and got her stepsister and to back her because neither of them liked him and say that he raped her. when he asked her "why are you doing this? you know it's not true" all she could do was say she hated him, which was obvious. he committed suicide. this girl was 14, and now the stepsister admits it wasn't true, but it's too late now, the man is dead. how is this fair? it's not. what can you do?
I attended church with a family whose daughter was sexually molested by the stepfather. The daughter told the mother and the mother went to our pastor and reported this to him during a counseling session. The pastor brought in the daughter, the mom and the step-father and several of the members that the girl had shared the details of the molestation with and told each of them that from that point on the matter was dropped. The pastor and the step-father were brothers. In the real world should'nt this clergyman have reported this incident to the authorities? This poor child since this incident has been put through so much ie: institutions, (2)babies, and moving from pillar to post. I look back now and wish I had known the law because the step-father was my friend also and maybe I could have done something. I do realize the statue of limitations has not run out as far as this child is concerned but maybe its best I let sleeping dogs lie.
When I was 12 years old my then step father, Ronnie L. Judd, of English, Indiana, tried to rape me. Before that he used to drill small holes in the bathroom walls so he could watch my sister and I take showers. Ronnie would also come into ourrooms while we were getting dressed or peek through the key holes to watch us. After he tried to rape me I called the police, when they arrived at my home, they took me away since I broke a bottle over his head during the struggle and the officer knew Ronnie very well (they grew up together). For the next two years I was placed in a group home, girls school and then an RTC Unit at an institution for troubled kids. My mother tried to get me released but the court system kept telling my mother that I was a troubled child in need of help. Once I was finally released I completed High School, graduated from college with 2 degrees (Criminology and Psychology) and I am now a Family Case Manager for the Department of Child Services.
I am 30 years old and I am wanting to bring Ronnie to justice. I am asking if there is anyone out there that would know the steps that I need to take to get this done? Please reply, I would greatly appreciate it.
I was molested by my father as a young child. In addition to the sexual abuse, my father was mentally, physically and verbally abusive to my brother (not his son) and my mother. My father also had other children by another woman whom I would see from time to time. As an adult woman, I became re-aquainted with these brothers and sister. At times it bothered me to pieces hearing them talk about "dad" this and "dad" that. When I finally told them about it, I felt no regard (as to the magnitude of hurt and pain or father had caused me)for my feelings from them. I let my father know that I forgive him for what he did to me. I tried talking to him on the phone a few times but he wouldn't open up. I am a Christian woman and so keeping the peace is important to me. At the same time, so is making sure that other people . . . children . . . dont have to experience the horrible things that I have experienced. This world says - "take responsibility for your own actions" and "stop blaming others for your mistakes." I say, I was molested and beaten by the one man on this earth who is supposed to love me and protect me till the end. I was introduced to sexual behaviors at the age of 4 or 5 years old. I learned to "tongue kiss" by my father. I became a mom at 14 and I married a man just like him. My husband was abusive, he raped me and ultimately, he tried to kill me.
People should really try to be a little bit more sensitive to the plight of people who have been affected like this. The effects are long lasting and far reaching. My innocence was stripped away from me. I was taught a behavior and so what else should have been expected. It took years to reprogram my mind and therefore my behaviors. It is not easy, but for all of those reading, please know that there is someone who understands where you are, where you've been and where you're going. My name is Brenda and I'll stand with you if no one else will. www.liberatedexpression.com
I just found out last night that my 22 year old son was sexually assaulted when he was a minor. I see that the statute of limitations is not up, but how do I go about making the monster that did it to him pay for it? Any information is greatly appreciated. I feel like I let him down and I want to do whatever I can to put the person behind bars who attacked him.
I HIGHLY doubt that everyone posting in this room is an atheist. If you claim the religion and lifestyle of Christianity...you are a fraud. I read these posts "I would KILL anyone who touches my daughters".....are you kidding me? You wouldn't kill anyone. Now... DO NOT get me wrong..Child Molesters need help, they are mentally sick and need therapy...because as a Christian man...I can not hate them, only pray that they change. I see 90% of these posts supporting that the statue of limtatioms be removed in cases like this...that's all gravy...but what about the 16 year old boy who has sex with his 14 year old girlfriend? Harmless right? Sexual abuse?...no...but majority of the states consider that to be abuse or sexual assualt or even molestation. So you're telling me, this poor kid has to worry for 30+ years of his life for consenual sex he had as a teen...with another teen? That's not right. I met a woman who was abused by her father as a child...this woman is Christian. Her father got help, found God and she has completely forgiven him. Although what was done to some of you was henious...do not claim the "Christian life" if you don't live it. Something that happened to you 20 years ago is in the past. If you truly trusted God...you'd be able to move on. These laws are ridiculous. There's no "fine line" between teens having sex with teens and adult men fondling children. Innocent young men around the globe are being arrested for a so called "crime" that in reality...was enticed by the younger female! So let the statue of limitations be lifted...just know you'd be sending young men to jail for something that you yourself do every night! (what I mean by that is, not everyone has a spouse that's the same age). God bless you all. I am sorry for those who were truly abused as a child...but let God be the judge of justice...not you.
I was kidnapped and raped when I was 13 by a 38 year old friend of the family. This situation was definitely rape. It was not involve two minors or one minor and a barely legal adult. This was not date rape. The family and also I trusted him until one day he raped me when I was just barely a teenager. I didn't speak up. You don't know what to do as a child. It is hard to make any decision and you don't always know what to do. Now I am an adult and I can defend myself. I didn't say anything than because he would threaten me in every way. I needed time to build up the courage to speak up. It 7 years later. I needed time and believe until you are in this type of traumatic situation you will understand that. There should not be any limitation as we all react to traumatic situations differently. We are victims. Please allow us time to speak up.
I was sexually molested by my oldest brother (he is much older than I am). I don't know when it started and I think it only ended because he was sent to prison for unrelated events. I never told a soul about this but I think the time has come to possibly do so. I am 38 years old. Is it to late to have him prosecuted? It shouldn't be.
There shouldn’t be a limitation on any sex crime. The emotional and mental damage a sex crime can cause a victim is tremendous and life long. The images of the events haunt you day and night. The mere thought of seeing my abuser gives me anxiety attacks to where I don’t know how to calm down. Being a victim is scary and if your abuser is still in your life confusing and intimidating. If a person steals from a store or kills someone and no witnesses come forward for 15 years and it is proven that this person committed the crime they are still prosecuted. Now if a child is abused sexually and does not have the courage to say it their rights should not be taken away. Many children can not appreciate the severity of the events to know it is a crime. Then when they are adults they think the statue of limitation is gone because of how long ago it was. The law was meant to defend the innocent from the criminals. Crime bills are for the victims that is why it is a crime. According to dictionary.com a crime is “an action or an instance of negligence that is deemed injurious to the public welfare or morals or to the interests of the state and that is legally prohibited.” So yes crime bills are to protect the victims. Offenders lose their rights when they decide to violate another.
I DO NOT agree that a molested child should only have until they are 28 to report molestation. Just like a lot of the people listed above, I too was molested as a child. I am 31 years old, and have just realized how negatively that it has effected me all my life. I have had such dysfunctional relationships, and a very dysfunctional sex life. I only wish that I would have broke the silence, and reported the person who molested me for 6 years of my young life. I also think that it takes a more mature person to realize that it is safe to talk about, and report these things.
I see where you are coming from with the words in your article. I am not thinking of pressing charges on the man whom not only sexually abused me for two years, but raped me as well. This took place from the age of two to four years old. There are reasons that some women, such as myself, may feel that (even at the age of 28) they cannot come forward. My reason is that he is my brother's biological father. If my brother knew what went on with his father and myself, I honestly believe the justice system would not be necessary; my brother would kill him with his bare hands. Knowing that my brother is this protective over me, is it better for me to simply deal with what happened, or should I risk telling and then live with the repercussions? I am 30 years old now, so this question is obviously irrelevant, but if (Heaven forbid) something were to happen to my brother, I would fight tooth and nail to see this man prosecuted for the hell he made me endure at such a young age. Then only he would suffer, and my little brother would remain unharmed. I just wanted to let you know there are reasons why "victims are not accountable to report these crimes" and why 28 years of age should not necessarily be a cut-off date. As for the section you wrote about repressed memories, I wish my memories were repressed. I have remembered EVERY single time that piece of garbage laid his hands on me, and it will haunt me for the rest of my life. I know everyone is entitled to their personal opinions, but cases such as child molestation are not as black and white as you would like them to be. There is definitely room for a gray area. Have a wonderful day and thank you for your time.
MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN WRONGFULLY ACCUSED, THEY MADE A DATE OF ACCUSATION OF " ON OR AROUND OCT OF 2004"... HE IS ONLY 23 AND THIS ACCUSATION HAS BEEN LINGERING IN THE COURT FOR 6 YEARS AND THEY HAVE NOT YET GONE THROUGH TRIAL NOR HAS HE BEEN CONVICTED BUT HE IS IN JAIL WAITING FOR A COURT DATE THAT THEY WILL NOT POST PONED!.. THEY ARE ONLY GOING BASED OFF OF WITNESSES SO CALLED STATEMENT. WE HAVE TRIED TO PRESENT DOCUMENTS AS TO HIS WHERE ABOUTS TO PROOVE HIS INNOCENCE, BUT THEY DONT ACEPT THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE USING A TIME FRAME NOT A SPECIFIC DATE... WE HAVE 2 BABY GIRLS WHICH LOVE HIM VERY MUCH AND BECAUSE OF THESE FALSE ACCUSATIONS WE HAVE BEEN FORCED TO HAVE A LOWER STANDARD OF LIVING. WE'VE BEEN TRYING TO GET A PROBONO OR NONPROFIT LAWYER AND HAVE BEEN UNSUCESSFUL.WE JUST PRAY EVERY DAY THAT THE TRUTH COMES OUT AND THAT HE COMES HOME TO HIS FAMILY SOON.
thomas dill sr rapes little girls, he is a monster. Thomas lives at 949 logan st hammond indiana
I was married to RANDY E ARTER in HOUSTON, TEXAS for three years and lived with him a year before. I had two young girls and thought I could trust the man I had known for 10 years that graduated with and knew my sister & brother n law. BUT years after I divorced him one of my daughters started acting out, she went to Psychologists etc, moved with her dad, then her Aunt out of state as she asked thinkin it would be good for her. But after she was out of town a few months she opened up that my Ex Randy E Arter had molested her, Since she was no longer in Texas and he was I was told by the Aunt that it would better help the case if I let her handle it from the state they lived in. The Aunt put down dates which she could not have known because she was not around, blocked calls between my daughter and I and told her we didn't believe her. Now after 11 yrs my daughter & I are talking, after a nightmare riddled pregnancy (due to REA)she has a Beautiful baby and married to a Great Man who knows all she has been through. And is still scared of him. Since the Aunt messed everything up, and he got away with it I am afraid of what/who he will hurt now. This man is newly Divorced and lives in Houston, Texas AND Owns his own business. I just found out he attempted to touch another little girl 13 yrs ago, she had supressed it. I pray EVERY DAY that this man will be taken down, something I didn't know when I met him is his own father had molested & raped his sister. What is wrong with this world? I wish my baby hadn't been so afraid of him and could have told me, I would have protected her with every fiber of my being... And defnately made him pay! I love my girls, and hate this man with a passion!
The person spouting about Christianity obviously doesn't have any children that have been touched by some insane idiot...or you would understand a mothers feelings of wanting to "Kill the person" that hurt her child...
Well the idiot who wrote this article obviously doesn't care; if she was raped, I guess she would be fine with it, let bygones be bygones is her moronic approach; she is obviously unable to think for herself and that is why our justice system is so rediculous. She probably read a book and being that she can't think for herself, took that view on the subject. Maybe she gets off on letting criminals go free, let's all hope one pays her a visit. Mam, you need to reevaluate your child molesting and child abuse defending stance if you have any common sense at all, once more, YOU ARE A IDIOT!!! "they've been getting away with molesting and beating children for so long it would be wrong to stop them now", another viewpoint this moron might have.
Background info on me; I am a disabled US veteran and had a very physically abusive childhood, no molestation thankfully. The difference between myself and the idiot who wrote this article is I can think for myself and put myself in other peoples shoes, unfortunately, she seems too self absorbed to care about others. Maybe it's just the power of the dollar for her, and in that case, instead of being considered a lawyer, the more appropriate title for her may be whore. Enjoy your molestation money, moron.
I am SICK and TIRED of all you whiners. Maybe you could think about someone other than yourselves for just a moment. There should be a tighter restriction on statute of limitations, definitely not looser.
When I was a boy, I was molested by both a church pastor and a several-year-older teen. So don't give me any crap about how I do not understand what you're going through.
Decades later (in my mid-40s) in a city far away, I was falsely accused of molesting the daughter of a pastor at my church. Did they do the Christian thing? Of course not, what were you thinking! Even though the evidence was obvious that I was innocent, the place she named I'd never even visited, and the accusing family had unresolved issues of abuse (mine were resolved about 10 years earlier), they hammered on the police, the prosecutor, and my church, almost splitting it in the process.
All the idiots believed I was guilty. Amazingly they did not need see or hear exculpatory evidence. These gossiping others complained loudly to the senior pastors. The ministry I'd been involved in was finished, because no one can afford the liability risk of having me around. Sick.
Oh, yeah, and this girl "remembers" the impossible things I did. Of course all the people that read pulp non-fiction (including the lousy religious pulp nonfiction) on the subject believe if I am accused it must be true.
So... you think you have it bad. Try getting accused of the thing you were victimized by. Then let's see how long you want the statute of limitations to be.
i feel for you, my husband is going through something similar, and unfortunately we do not have enough money to get a private lawyer and the state is representing him and trying to get him to plea guilty to something he did not do ... and for 6 years he has been batteling this injustince... not all accused are guilty, some are innocent...
Quote my sister has always said "If a child is sexually abused the victims die inside, they will never be fully healed, the abuser should get their life take away as they stole the child's life" I truly believe it, I am sorry but as soon as a person violates the law, their rights should be gone. How is it possible that most of the time we are more worried about the criminal before we worry about the victim. A lot of times it seems the criminal has more rights than the victim and that is sad!!
Manuel Rodriguez Jr., is a child molester.
He lives at :
10102 Silvercrest
Houston,Tx 77076
I feel for anonymous that posted 9/1/2010. I was molested by my stepfather since I was 3 till I left my house at a very young age that was the reason I left, I always alerted my children on the dangers lerked out there even within the family and not to beleive the lies these people tell us when they are molesting us anytime I heard someone speak about a child being molested I would cringed and my blood would boil I would say things like why would anyone not beleive these kids? why isnt anybody not doing anything about it? Kids wouldnt lie about something like this! I wanted them to get the help I didnt get I was reacting like the Victim because I was a victim....oh did my world come cashing down on me when my ex-husband girlfriend accused my 11 yr old son of sexual assulting her 10yr, 8yr, & 5yr sons. Yes my first reaction was one of the victim I felt sad and sick I even said "how could he"? But then it took a therapist to open my eyes and made me see that not all that cry wolf should be crying wolf...I was ready to convict my son I even told God if he did this take him before hurts anyone else because remeber in my eyes being a victim I could never imagine children would lie about being molested but they do so now my son has to worry about this even though CPS didnt see any reason to pursue this and therapist have say my son doesnt show any signs of being a child predator he still has to watch back as his attorney said he can not do anything others can perceive as bad tell me is this a life a child should live because a woman decided her boyfriend should not have contact with his children she is still living with him so I asked myself if your boyfriends son molested your kids would you still stay with him? My son nows seeks and serves the Lord, had therapy and knows that he can still be prosecuted for something he did not do....till this day I ask that woman what excatly did my son do to her kids and she says nothing only thing I can get out of her is I didnt like the way they played football or they wrestled she has ruined my sons childhood and part of his life so yes children need to get help but they need to make sure what they say before they accuse innocent people....God Bless you all I have forgivin my stepfather God will deal with him I am free of that bondage...Seek the Lord He will set you free. Anonymous keep seeking the Lord He is there for you just keep seeking Him, He will never let you down only humans do that so I encourge you to keep seeking Him and continue with you ministry...
many of you people who would like to see your molestors tried in a court of law,let me ask you something.what proof is there except for your accusation?if you have proof that this person has molested someone else then you have something to go with.but if you plan on getting him put in jail,several years after the fact by your word alone..don't count on it.
Most all comments that I have read here are people that are full of rage and hatred toward their alledged perpetrator. How couuld we accept their ideas about the law. They want to use the law to get even with the perp. The protections for innocent peeople would get thrown out the window so they can convict their perps. I bet if these accussers where theirselve accussed after 30 years, they would be for the state of limitations of 10 years after 18 years of age. Many people are now falsely accused of the these crimes now. Children DO lie and especially teen agers. In my home county, Angelina in Texas, half of all the cases result in jury acquittal. I was brought up and still believe that it is better for 10 guilty people to escape justice then for 1 innocent person to be convict.
None of this is about religion. Its about innocence being stripped and robbed from an unsuspecting and most often innocent child, by a person that PURPOSEFULLY molests, rapes or otherwise sexually assaults a "VICTIM". These acts perpetrated on anyone cause long lasting damage to their pschye, views of sex, emotional stability, futurerelationships, views of how to relate in NORMAL relationships. The VICTIM is further damaged as the years go by and the VICTIM realizes he or she might not have been the only one. This happened to me. I thought if I was the only one, I had made sure that I never was around this man alone again that it would stop. I was 4 years old. Fifty years passed when Several years ago, I happened to be in church and watched this mans entire family walk in and it hit me in the face like a ton of bricks. The family members have a myriad of emotional, physical and other problems symptomatic of abuse of many sorts. I would bet my life he had abused his own daughter and grand daughters and possibly sons. I talked it over with my female cousin and found the same uncle had done the same to her as he did to me and we were more than 8 years apart in age, me being the older. THIS MEANT, HE CONTINUED this abhorrent behavior anytime with any child that he thought he could corner alone. SO IS THERE REALLY A STATUTE OF LIMITATIONS FOR A MOLESTER???? THERE IS NONE FOR A VICTIM. I understand people making up lies to get back at former parents or abusers, however, as a credible adult at the age I am now, I would have nothing to gain monetarily or otherwise by exposing this man. I would however, end the cycle for him and perhaps his own daughter and own grand children......think about that. It is not fair to the VICTIMS to be saddled with guilt for not speaking up or out.....I blocked the memory for years.... and now it consumes me, because if I see him at a family event, he taunts me, he winks at me.....knowing I want to tear his head off. So if no law will protect him, then GOD help him, because I intend to confront him verbally, then I will tell the entire family, his children, his grand children and anyone that will listen. When it happened to me, it was taboo, and further, had I had the maturity to have told my parents, they probably would have killed him. Now my parents are elderly and he borrows money from them....I am incensed that he does this knowing what he did to me. With my parents being elderly, if I told my father, he would still kill him.......back then as now, I would face the possiblity of losing a parent if they retailiated. There is NO WIN for the VICTIM. Now, as an adult awake wondering what to do, I am faced with WHY DIDN'T I TELL at 4 years old? Why wait till now. Because it was severely repressed memory and buried.....I thought I was the only one for years, but now that I have processed all this, I am smart enough not to accept guilt for his behavior, but need some legal way to expose him and punish him. There are at least two of us that will testify against him. I think it would give the others courage to come forward or perhaps not. All I have left is my belief in GOD that there will be an atonement for this man whether it is in my lifetime or not. The law fails us either way. UNTIL CHILD ABUSE IS STOPPED AT ITS ROOTS, with those of us enacting laws that make the punishment NOT WORTH the crime, the cycle will continue. Write your congressmen and senators and ask for tougher child abuse laws, tougher laws for parents to get these children back, tougher laws with teeth that end the cycle.
We need to stand together as a team and fight for the rights as citizens of this US: every child has right even at the age of 4,5.6 etc. My granddaughter was molested by her mother's live in boy friend. The mother calls her child a liar and married the Molester. We have been fighting in court for over 4 years to keep her protected. It has cost us our life savings over 60 Thousands dollars between lawyers and therapist. The mother is fighting for reunification, to place this child back in the HANDS of her perpetrator. The Justice system states the perpetrator has been through theraphy and they are considering reunification. Without additional funds we will no longer be able to fight the court system to keep her safe from her perpetrator. Our only hope and prayers left is to go to the MEDIA. We need to team together as victims and fight congress to stop REUNIFICATION with perpetrators. If all children that have been molested take a stand for JUSTICE to save all God's children presently in the system where as their rights as citizens of this US can be heard. WE are their voices without you, me and everyone else these children will continue to be molested and abused in the hands of their perpretrators.
She is only 8 years old........
May God give us all the strength to fight Justice for the rights of all abused children. As a grandmother I will fight for her rights and all God's childrens rights until I DIE....
Broken Hearted Grandmother
This message is for Dave Torrid:
When a child at the age of 5 tells over 6 adults including therapist she has been molested what more prof do you need. It has been over 4 years and this child has not changed her disclosure, as a citizen she has as much rights at the age of five as you and I do as adults. The Justice System has failed all God's children, in this Justice System a child does not have a voice you are right. There is a God and all Child molesters will have their day if not here on this earth it will be before GOD. If you are not a child Molester than write congress and be the voice of all God's children and help fight for their rights. I am a Grandmother of this child that place her hand on my face with big blue eyes stating her perpetrator washed her vagina with his fingers and ask to please do not let him do this anylonger, it hurt, he does it for a long time and when I ask him to stop he said "you let me do this". My heart felt as though I was stabbed with daggers, my life felt emptied to know this monster has robbed her from her purity. At the age of five no child understands the untrust of an adult they have put all their trust into. She knew no one else did this to her, she also knew it hurt and wished for it to STOP.. I hope you can lay your head down on your pillow and imagine how many molesters are getting away with this evil behavior upon innocient young children. This perpetrators actions has pretty much destroyed my health, finances, and most of all my belief in the Justice System to protect children. Just hearing your statment make me believe you could be working for our Justice System.
May God give you light to see the suffering Molesters are displaying on All God's Children.
I promise I will prove this creature GUILTY..............
Johnny Ray Hatcher and his ex wife Glenda Hatcher are both child molesters. They each taught in the field of education for several years. Due to the statues of limitation, my voice cannot be heard. It is inconceivable that politicians can decided when a abuse survivor, and yes I said SURVIVOR, feels safe enough to report the crime.
Johnny Hatcher taughted and Prairiland High School outside of Paris, TX and also worked at Deport Junior High (Deport TX) during the 80's and 90's. I am sure I am not their only victim.
Johnny and Glenda are now divorced (although Glenda told me she would share her husband with me. I was a 14 year old kid!!!!)
Johnny Hatcher continues to live in the Paris, TX area.
Earl Ritch of Sachse, Texas is a child molester. Ask his wife, she knows about it, but she is so beaten down by him that she won't face the truth. The statute of limitations in criminal law may have expired, but that won't stop a civil lawsuit from being filed.
Charles E. Koenig from Horshoe Bay Texas is a Child Molester and there are many witnesses. Because of the Statute of limitations, is there any way to bring a suit against this man? Again, there are multiple victims as well as Counselor records that could be used as evidence.
I too was molested from the time that I was 8 till 13. I did not say anything back then as it was taboo and people did not reveal such vile acts that were committed by family members. Yes the MONSTER WHO DID THIST TO ME IS MY BROTHER IN LAW--My mother later in life when I told her stated that she knew all along but she chose to do nothing about it. I have since found out that this MONSTER also molested his own daughter. I also wish him dead every day and would like to see PAUL LA TOUR formerly of Schnectady NY,Edison NJ, Florence SC and now where ever else he now lives spend the rest of his life behind bars. The sad part is that my sister ran day centers from her home. So anybody that is reading this and you were cared for and VIOLATED IN ANY WAY PLEASE GO TO THE AUTHORITIES. I am now starting therapy after being diagnosed with PTSD and major depression. I can hear his feet coming toward me and can smell him. I have woke up several times screaming for him to get off of me and leave me alone. To this day if I am sleeping and someone touches me or speaks to me I scream and scare the daylights out of that person.
Billy Hall of Jefferson TX is a child molester. There are several out there that he molested and he got away with it!
Hello. My name is Tanya Lynne Foster Pelfrey Hanna, and I am 44 years old. I currently live in Mesquite, Texas, which is a suburb of Dallas. I am writing this to inform Michael Timothy Goebel, and his wife Karen Sue (Combs) Goebel that I am not afraid of them any longer. I am horrified and very frustrated that there is a statute of limitations on child sex abuse. Mike, who worked for the US postal service, and his wife, Karen, who apparently works for Texas Oncology, with Dr. Weisberg, is a registered nurse. Their employers had no knowledge about their transgressions, and as such I of course do not hold them responsible, but DO hope fervently that they will one day learn the truth about the people they have invited into their lives.
Mike and Karen I thought were my friends, and took me into their home when I was a child of 14. I babysat, and became a pseudo-sister for their own son, Michael Paul Clifford Goebel. I was the victim of their sick sexual games, became a sex slave, and a house slave for about 8 years. All I wanted and needed was someone who I could talk to, but instead Mike would take me for long rides in his car and make me perform oral sex on him. Additionally, he made me perform lesbian acts with his wife. Thinking about it now makes me want to vomit. I finally moved out when I was 22. It took me this long to get counseling to realize I was being abused. They were horribly controlling, even stalking me after I managed to sneak out and move out of their home while everyone was at work/school. At this point I went to the Irvin Police Department, to report the whole mess, and to get them to leave me alone, so I could pick up the tattered pieces of my life. The scumbag officers at Irving PD told me that I could not report the incident after I was 18. I recently learned that this was NOT true at the time, which was 1990. In fact, as many other of these posts have stated, I could have reported this all the way up to my 28th birthday, which would have been in May of 1995. I went for five years thinking that the Goebels could not be prosecuted. Then I find out that the jerks at Irving PD COULD have done something to help me, but preferred to sit on their laurels and let CHILD MOLESTERS get away SCOT-FREE!!
Like someone else said, there's no statute of limitations for victims, so why for perps? Why can't we forget this abuse ever happened to US after we turned 28??
I freakin' DARE SOMEONE, ANYONE to look me up and to do ANYTHING to help me and millions, if not billions of people who are suffering through life, all because some sick-o people got their jollies off on us...LITERALLY. SLIME BAGS! I hope SOMEONE will tell your DAUGHTER-IN-LAW, Kim Starling GOEBEL, so she can PROTECT her THREE DAUGHTERS from the likes of you. I tried, but her and your son, Michael Paul Goebel, blocked my messages on Facebook. Mike, you hung up on me some years ago. You may get away with it for a while, but sooner or later, God, our Heavenly Father, WILL MAKE YOU AND KAREN PAY for what you did to me, and what you tried to do to Robin. Yeah, I know all about that too. I guess Mike, you are suffering now, because you look like holy hell has descended on your face. I hope so, no one deserves it more than people like you.
Please, someone with legal authority help me!!!!
My daughter at age three was molested by her real father. No substial evidence so no conviction. The state here was no help. Children's advocacy video taped her interview and then concluded with no substial evidence. The lady said maybe it was like he touched when giving her a bath. My daughter was young and she said herself he touched her while taking a nap on his bed. She showed me how he touched her and where.I know it happened. He put two fingers on her private area she showed me how he did it. She had visiting with him because we were never married and we lived out of state with my husband now,so she was going for a visit in the summer to see him and his mother. When she came back to us. She told me what had happened. Wanted to kill him,but I slept with the bible on my chest that night. Thall shall not kill. One of the ten commandments. I pray everyday justice will come. He has legal rights to her,but thank god he has never enforced them. Because after that visit her or I never had contact with him again. He would get custody of her if I passed away for any reason. He deserves to be in prison. My husband now wants to adopt her,but I do not want to have to deal with the biological father,because I want to keep it a no contact thing. If he enforced his rights right now I could be in jail. How wrong is that when it should be him rotting in prison for what he did to her. Yeah statue of limitations against children that have been abused law to extend it should be past. Mothers like me can have time to build a case against a molestor. It is hard to build a case when the state is not helping like they should. They did not even issue a physical exam for her.God will bring justice one day!!! It is my job to protect my daughter and I will do whatever I have to do.
My uncle Armando Niño that live in Houston,texas in the Hieghts area is a child molestor. He raped me when I was a child 8 -10 yrs of age and he tried to molest my cousin recently.
I also am a childhood sexual abuse survivor. The abuse situation was set up by my mother and performed by her then boyfriend. I would find out in my 40s, that my mother set up the same abusive situation between my youngest sister and my stepfather. My mother has a very strong personality and I was afraid of her for years! She eventually divorced the abusive stepfather who we were also afraid of. At that point my sisters and myself just sort of continued to sweep everything under the carpet because we just wanted it to go away. I believe all children just want the issue to go away and things to get back to some normalcy in their household or they feel guilty or they are afraid or any number of other reasons. The issue is now in my late 50s, I am realizing much of the decision making I made in my life (giving up a baby, drug addiction, bad relationships) all stemmed from the sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and lack of structure I was subjected to as a child. I think many people just shove the memories deeper believing they are suppose to be responsible adults and need to forget about it and move on. The brain does not forget -- well, normally. However, rarely do victims' lives repair on their own without full recognition and counseling to work on the issues. I also believe abusers rarely only abuse one time, so if the system puts a 10 year limit on the reporting issue: 1. the abuser gets off and can continue to abuse; 2. the victims I know rarely want to report it or deal with the people involved even though they should immediately when the abuse happens; 3. Until you mature to a level that you can understand your healing begins with seeking help and reporting the situation, it could easily be 30 or 40 years later; 4. At-home abusers abuse more than the mind and body, they abuse the basic constitutional right of a child to feel safe and secure in their home. I have a rare case in that both the abusers are still alive, but I am sure that is also a complication. For me personally, I chose to cut communication completely with my mother and to continue to teach my birth daughter, nieces and female friends/acquaintances that it is okay to report the behavior and hold those people responsible. Doing so, means you believe child abuse is wrong and abusers should be held accountable. It is important to pass these beliefs and options for taking responsibility to our younger women and children who tend to be the most likely victims. I support NO TIME LIMITS on offenders! There are lots of them out there!!!!
My daughter who is 11 was molested by Roberto Hernandez who raised her as his own since she was 2 well he and I was in a relationship for all those years I didn't know and being a victim of molestation myself as a child I would always talk to my kids and tell em if anyone touches ya or anything that makes ya uncomfortable ya can tell me she never told me till I caught it we are facing a lot cuz I have 2 children by this man and my daughter's fear is that her brother and sister will hate her cuz she told he had her so scared to tell me when I caught it se thought she was in trouble all I could do was cry and tell her I'm sorry I'm sorry she went through that I am sorry I failed as a mother I know she will have a lot to overcome cuz I've been there but she looked at this man like a dad I say no limits they kill a child inside forever God heals us all shouldn't they pay some how some way my question is will he be allowed around my kids or can I get it to where he wont I don't want my baby girl to had to go though this to its bad enough he hurt one she is willing to talk to people bout it I've talked to her nd told her tht I will protect her she is still scared of him but she knows mama will do anything to protect her can I keep him from the 2 we have together since he hurt my baby
MY TURN TO HAVE PEOPLE KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT ME AND MY SIBLINGS CHILDHOOD BEING TAKEN AWAY FROM US. WE TOO WERE ONCE INNOCENT.
WARREN LEO DOANE, JR. IS A CHILD MOLESTER. HE WAS BORN IN NEW ORLEANS, LOUISIANA JUNE 5th, 1933. HE HAS GOTTEN AWAY WITH IT FOR MANY YEARS DUE TO THE FACT THAT OUR FAMILY HAS FOREVER BEEN SCARED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!! HE LIVES IN SLIDELL, LOUISIANA 70458. HE MARRIED ORA NELL THAMES-DOANE(WHO WAS MENTALLY ILL) AND HAS HAD 8kids/7SURVIVED TOTAL. I WILL ALWAYS BELIEVE HE TOOK ADVANTAGE OF OUR MOTHER(WHO WAS HELPLESS AND ON MEDICATIONS) AND EVERY TIME HE PUT HER INTO MENTAL FACILITIES HE WOULD HAVE HIS WAY WITH ME AND MY SIBLINGS. WHEN SHE DIED BACK IN 1999 FROM A UNFORESEEN HEART CONDITION. I TOOK AN SMALL CASSETTE THAT HAS HER VOICE ARGUING WITH MY FATHER AS TO HOW HE MOLESTED ME AND MY SIBLINGS IT WAS RECORDED BY ACCIDENT BY MY FATHER IN MAY 1999 SHE DIED JUNE 2 1999. HE USED TO MAKE ME AND MY BROTHER SOMETIMES GO GET PAPERWORK ON HER AT A CORNOR'S OFFICE TO PUT HER AWAY EVERY TIME SHE'D ARGUE WITH HIM ABOUT TOUCHING AND HURTING US. IT KILLED ME THAT ME AND MY SIBLINGS NEVER HAD ANYONE LOVE US NOR HELP US EVEN THOUGH MANY PEOPLE KNEW HE WAS SUCH AN SELFISH SICK PERSON. HE HAS MOLESTED ME FROM BIRTH TILL AGE 16. HE HAS A SMALL HOLE ON THE LEFT SIDE OF HIS PENIS WHERE HE ONCE TOLD ME THAT IS WHERE MY GRANDMOTHER STUCK HIM WITH A SAFETY PIN. WHEN MY EARS GOT PIERCED. HE TOOK OUT ONE OF MY EARRINGS AND SHOWED ME HOW EASY IT WOULD GO INTO THE HOLE OF HIS PENIS. NO ONE WANTED TO HEAR OUR CRIES. I TOLD EVERYONE, AUNTS, UNCLES, TEACHERS, COUNSLERS, FRIENDS AS TO WHAT HE DID NOT ONLY TO ME BUT TO MY SISTERS/BROTHERS. HE WAS A FIREFIGHTER FOR NEW ORLEANS, LOUISIANA MOISANT AIRPORT IN KENNER IS WHERE HE WAS STATIONED AT. HE KNEW MANY COPS AND JUDGES. HE HAD GONE TO SCHOOL WITH MOST OF THEM. THEY USED TO THINK ME AND MY SIBLINGS WERE LYING ABOUT THE WHOLE THING. IT ONLY PISSED ME OFF AND MADE ME WANT TO KILL HIM. I KEEP THIS ANGER WITH ME TODAY. I AM UPSET THAT BACK IN THE 70'S AND 80'S THAT THE MOTTO WAS "KIDS SHOULD BE SEEN AND NOT HEARD"!! fU*K WHOEVER MADE THAT UP. EVEN MY NIECES AND NEPHEWS WERE MOLESTED BY HIM. MY BROTHER NEVER WANTED TO PUT HIM AWAY. THEY ARE TOO TRAUMATIZED BY WHAT HE HAS DONE TO THEM. CAN HE STILL BE PROSECUTED TODAY FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE TO MANY PEOPLE? I NEED ANSWERS NOW!! THANK YOU FOR TAKING TIME TO READ MY POST. HOPEFULLY JUSTICE CAN BE DONE.
I DARE ANYONE IN MY FAMILY TELL ME THAT I AM A LIAR. THEY ALL KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT MY SICK FATHER(WARREN LEO DOANE, JR.) BUT ARE SCARED SHITLESS TO ADMIT TO IT. I ON THE OTHER HAND AM NOT AFRAID TO TELL IT LIKE IT IS.
I was molested the first time at the age of 5. My grandmother walked in and caught her father touching me. She yelled and took me to the restroom and told me not to "let" him do that again. Oh and of course never ever tell anyone. That was perfect for my stepfather who abused me for years! Inappropriately touched me grabbed me kissed me. I was in constant fear that he was going to rape me. He even wanted to gave me committed to a mental institution when I was 12 so I wouldn't tell. He didn't have to worry. I had no self worth had already been told not to tell and if your not raped then its not that bad! Suffer from severe panic attacks. I am now 46 years old and could not care less if he pays for bis crimes. I know he will pay one day.
i think there should be a statue of limitations the reason being cause like some of the upper comments to many kids want to get back at thier step father or parent. kids now adays dont have disipline like i did when i was a kid, if they dont get thier way they dont care who they hurt to get what they want and if someone stands in thier way watch out!ok heres my story and please comment away cause i need input, my daughter never gave me and sign or if i watched a movie about molestation i would say if anyone ever did that to my child they would regret it and so on, nothin was said from her. then when she turned 15 she wanted to go live with her grandparents only because for yrs she always wanted to cause my father spoiled her rotten. she was a good child a lil mouthy and use to getting what she wanted but not bad child ,anyways one day she was waiting for me to get home said lets go to the grandparents not knowing why me n her went she goes mom i wanna move here me n u just fight way to much and i was starting to give to many rules which a gave a few but she was becoming a teen i know how teens act. so i said no ur not movin here ur with me til ur 18 then its ur decision lets go now well me and her walked outside so she seen that didnt work so just to me and her she said i got somethin to tell u dad (her stepdad) touched her when she was 5 etc etc molested her i said if this is true why when many time i have talked to her about molestation etc and she had her chances to tell me then she never said anything her reply i dont know he said that if i told everyone would hate me. i said i never seen signs or anything to make me believe this happened so i left her there and went to confront my husband and when i told him he looked at me and cried and said wtf i swear didnt and would never and the look on his face i did believe him. well for months i went thru hell being in the middle not knowing what to do or believe daughter moved in with grandparents and husband defended his innocence and so on nothing went to the cops but my father and my daughter being close i got terrorized by my father for not leaving my husband for the things being told then it died down but she still lived there then about yr later she got a boyfriend which about a yr later they had a kid together and things died down nothin said nothin done about situation they even lived with us off and on for yrs she went places with my husband had him watch her kid even called him dad again etc etc this went on for 8 yrs after she told me of the situation then recently her and her bf split up and she moved back in with us again along with her son 4 and daughter 18 months we watch the kids we all did things together she called him dad like nothin was ever said 8 yrs ago then she got pissed off at me cause she was staying out late after work(shes 23 now) and not getting up with kids she was also getting slack for ex bf cause she didnt want him back etc then bam 1 night me and her had a fight next day with nothin said to me and my husband she told us ill be back later going with ex continued
continued from upper comment.... then 4 hrs later we get a text her that her ex knows everything someone told him what happen 8 yrs ago etcetc and it all came back out then she started her role again and i know i sound mean when i say role but she has lied to me before and dont know i believe the hubby was innocent cause there was never no signs plus he didnt drink he never spanked all 3 of my kids(also have 2 boys) nothing he was not a violent man barely ever raised his voice etc anyways her and the ex said we not longer able to see the grandkids and shes never comming back and there was a brawl betwwen the family etc and she was mad at me yet again for not being on her side my husband confronted her in front of everyone asking why shes doing this he never touched her or nothing to make her think anything sexual all he did was try to be a father that she didnt have!when he confronted her this time she turned her head and walked away then started arguing with me and so on and she tried to say for yrs the reason my husband was nice was like a reason to keep her quiet.what im getting to also is i was sexually violated i hate the word molested by my real father and never told no one for yrs i moved out when i was 18 to never move back with em plus i never wanted to be left alone in room with him or when i was little always pretended to be sleeping when mom was gone and he drank cause thats when it happened but anyways i know the signs of the situation and i never saw them with her!my sons now know what there dad is being accussed of and are pissed at her saying she is also lying even the one brother she was close to she never said anything to about it. we havent talked for 5 days since argument went on about this again but she refuses to let us see grandbabies cause she said she dont want it to happen to her daughter even though before this fight we use to watch them and she never ever was afraid to leave them with us but like shes got to make it all look convincing now but she dont realize all this can possible put an innocent man in prison for somethin he didnt do just to get what she wants again and not to make her look like a fool in anyones eyes so whats some advice and does anyone know what will happen if she brang this to legal attn after all these yrs if she even does? but also to how long should innocent ppl have to be afraid that a person gotta live the rest of thier life wondering if somethin pisses this person off again they can be accused again, if it did happen i know ppl need time to get brave but come on if it happen to and the person isnt violent why didnt she come forth?so i believe there should be statue of limitation
I myself was a victim of sexual abuse. I have been victimized by three different individuals throughout my life from the ages of 4 to approximately 14. I have spoken openly about my abuse and have not wished to convict any of my perpetrators. I personally feel that it can do more harm than good for many of the innocent people that would be greatly affected. What happened happened and nothing will change that. However, I do believe that repetitive offenders should be locked up to prevent this from reoccurring. I do not by any means condone this behavior. I can honestly say that I do not feel the same way the majority of you feel about your perpetrators. In fact I have very good relationships with two of the three of mine. I made a choice to forgive these individuals and not to let the acts that were bestowed upon me define me as a person. I am who I am today because of how I have chosen to deal with all of the good and bad situations that have occurred throughout my life. I am happy to say that I am not bitter or vengeful. We are all human and we all sin, I am not here to be the judge of anyone's faults or wrong doings. As a previous poster stated God will be the judge of us all. You are allowing yourselves to still be victimized by these people and are allowing them to continually control your happiness and well being. Set yourselves free from this bondage! My heart aches for those of you that are continually suffering and I pray that you may find the peace in your heart to not let this overcome your lives!!!
Wow. The poster from 11/08/12 sounds like a PERPETRATOR and NOT A VICTIM. I don't think your heart aches for any other victims, as you've said. IF (and a very big IF) you are indeed a victim, you are unschooled in the behavior of sex abusers AND come off as detached from empathy for others. I believe you should receive some counseling either for your sexual problems or...if you are indeed a victim....for your detachment disorder and lack of insight into the suffering of others.
I apologize if my story has offended you in any way! My intent is not to belittle or scrutinize anyone for how they have overcome their struggles and hardships. We ALL cope differently. My intent was for people to know that there is indeed light at the end of the tunnel if you want to see it there. I in fact was a VICTIM of sexual abuse, but I have chosen not to live my life as if I am still a victim. I decided that the best thing for ME as an individual was to forgive! If this has given you the impression that I am not empathetic to another persons suffering, then you are a very ignorant individual. I appreciate your concern for my well being, but I am fine. I take pride in the person that I have become in spite of everything and everyone that has tried knocking me down along the way. I can only hope that you may also find the peace in your heart to overcome whatever it is that you have endured through out your life.
I agree with you, I'm in the same situation.
I don't live in Texas, but I was wrongly accused of child molestation. I was 12 years old when this incident happened and am now 31. I still have to deal with the emotional pain and suffering of knowing what life could have been if the truth had been known at the time of the supposed "incident". This will be the first time I will tell anyone of this, other than my wife and family, although I shall remain anonymous.
I was 12 years old, and a family friend had asked my mom if one of us kids (my sister or myself) could do her a favor while she had to go to work. Her normal babysitter was not available that day, and eager to make some extra money I volunteered. How had could it be to watch over a 24 month old girl.. Her mom had told me that she had already used the bathroom, and would not need to again for sometime; and would probably not need to go again until after she got home. She was no problem, until she pooped herself. Now how can I control when a 2 year old wants to poop her diaper? Anyhow, I took the child to the bathroom, and put her on her changing table. I took her diaper off and proceeded to clean her the best I knew how. Mind you a 12 year old boy does not know how to properly clean a poopy diaper; unless he has regularly done it or has regularly witnessed it, that was not me. So I proceeded to clean her up, I wiped her bum and areas above her bum, I wiped up and down then side to side. I did not know I was not supposed to wipe side to side. I then put a new diaper on the child and put her back in her crib, and went back to watching TV. Nothing else happened in the time frame that I was watching her child.
About 3-5 weeks passed, and the ladies child got an apparent yeast infection. When she took her child to the doctor to diagnose this yeast infection her daughter apparently said "mommy, he hurt me.". At which point she automatically concluded that I must have harmed her child in some form or another. She took her accusation to the county authorities, where she was able to drum up support for a child molestation charge against me. I was arrested and charged with child molestation of a minor under 3. I was 12, about to turn 13; my whole life ahead of me. Worst of all, my Mom & step-dad did not believe me when I insisted I did not do such things. Their distrust in me stemmed from the fact that I was starting to understand my body, entering puberty, and discovering "how to masturbate". They had caught me masturbating in my room, with the door closed, and being that they were conservative Christians thought I was committing an evil and deceitful act. They automatically thought I had done it because I was dicovering my own sexuality.
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I was forced to take an AIDS test and a polygraph. I was so damn nervous; having never thought of having to do this, not knowing what to do. I ended up failing the polygraph, I was so nervous about what I was doing and why I was there. I was confused about why my parents couldn't believe me, I knew in my heart that I was innocent, but the polygraph said otherwise. That was all the "proof" my parents needed. I ended up in court, and was given a public defender to defend me. The public defender was only interested in plea bargaining my case. My mom wanted it to be over as fast as possible, so she could get on with HER life. She instructed the public defender to accept the best offer, which ended up being improper contact with a minor, offender under 13. I was sentenced to a juvenile sex offender rehab program. I was forced under court order to listem to real sex offenders talk about their crimes, including how 1 young man graphically describing how he raped an infant. This destroyed me, the suffering I had to deal with, the things I had to listen to and the numerous sessions I had to endure; learning about proper and improper masturbation and how to be a non-offender. I ended up having my probation transferred out of state, when I petitioned to live with my father instead of my mother. I had to endure the lasting stigma of being labeled a juvenile sex offender. I was suspended from Jr High for asking a girl for her phone # to properly complete a class assignment. I was brought to the deans office and counseled by the sheriffs office about how to act around other classmates. (none of these situations were brought on by my fellow classmates, but rather by teachers who had been informed of my "criminal" status).
My record was sealed when I turned 18, and I petitioned for expungement when I turned 21, it was granted because I never had any repeat offenses. I learned that about 5 years after the case, the little girl I babysat for recanted, and her mother admitted my mother that she had made a mistake. She never told anyone that she was sorry for what she had done, she ruined my life. She has no idea the person I ended up becoming as a result of this terrible ordeal. I have always maintained my innocence, denying the charges every time someone asked me about them. My mom eventually told me how sorry she was, for what she had done to me and what she had put me through. However now, her memory is starting to fade, so she occasionally still makes references towards it as if I am still guilty. Thankfully, my wife truly believes in my innocence. She has no problem with me being around her kids. She supports me with every step I take in my life long recovery. I may never fully recover from what I had to endure, at the hands of parental figures thinking they were doing the right things. I have things in my head that may never go away. I have addictions to porn, and strong lustful desires. My wife is aware of these and helps me as she can. I am not addicted to sex by any means, I do not crave sex at every waking moment. I just want to share my story, to inform people that the pain of sexual abuse goes beyond those who have been abused; it very much extends to those who have been falsely accused and to those who have been wrongly convicted. It is a pain that we have to deal with for the remainder of our lives.
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I was forced to take an AIDS test and a polygraph. I was so damn nervous; having never thought of having to do this, not knowing what to do. I ended up failing the polygraph, I was so nervous about what I was doing and why I was there. I was confused about why my parents couldn't believe me, I knew in my heart that I was innocent, but the polygraph said otherwise. That was all the "proof" my parents needed. I ended up in court, and was given a public defender to defend me. The public defender was only interested in plea bargaining my case. My mom wanted it to be over as fast as possible, so she could get on with HER life. She instructed the public defender to accept the best offer, which ended up being improper contact with a minor, offender under 13. I was sentenced to a juvenile sex offender rehab program. I was forced under court order to listem to real sex offenders talk about their crimes, including how 1 young man graphically describing how he raped an infant. This destroyed me, the suffering I had to deal with, the things I had to listen to and the numerous sessions I had to endure; learning about proper and improper masturbation and how to be a non-offender. I ended up having my probation transferred out of state, when I petitioned to live with my father instead of my mother. I had to endure the lasting stigma of being labeled a juvenile sex offender. I was suspended from Jr High for asking a girl for her phone # to properly complete a class assignment. I was brought to the deans office and counseled by the sheriffs office about how to act around other classmates. (none of these situations were brought on by my fellow classmates, but rather by teachers who had been informed of my "criminal" status).
My record was sealed when I turned 18, and I petitioned for expungement when I turned 21, it was granted because I never had any repeat offenses. I learned that about 5 years after the case, the little girl I babysat for recanted, and her mother admitted my mother that she had made a mistake. She never told anyone that she was sorry for what she had done, she ruined my life. She has no idea the person I ended up becoming as a result of this terrible ordeal. I have always maintained my innocence, denying the charges every time someone asked me about them. My mom eventually told me how sorry she was, for what she had done to me and what she had put me through. However now, her memory is starting to fade, so she occasionally still makes references towards it as if I am still guilty. Thankfully, my wife truly believes in my innocence. She has no problem with me being around her kids. She supports me with every step I take in my life long recovery. I may never fully recover from what I had to endure, at the hands of parental figures thinking they were doing the right things. I have things in my head that may never go away. I have addictions to porn, and strong lustful desires. My wife is aware of these and helps me as she can. I am not addicted to sex by any means, I do not crave sex at every waking moment. I just want to share my story, to inform people that the pain of sexual abuse goes beyond those who have been abused; it very much extends to those who have been falsely accused and to those who have been wrongly convicted. It is a pain that we have to deal with for the remainder of our lives.
if you were the one molested as a child and it still affected \you at 60 would you feel differently
Bruce Frary 7636 Vallejo St.Denver Co.He is a child molester.He molested my son.
I disagree. My oldest brother and cousin raped me for a year before we moved out of state. I love them both, this is why, at age 56 I am still sad that I am messed up and all I ever pray for from them is an apology, and explanation. I was 7 at the time and it's been with me every day since.
Please pass that law. My husband got raped or molested by a 26 year old woman. She also molested him n talked him into marrying her. Now mind you she has so brain washed him and now she's so screwing him so bad not only with child support but also took money from h on his death bed in Iraq when he got blown up. This is discussing and unbearable.
By the way i forgot to say he was 15 at that time
I told my family and church, was taken out of home by church and even asked if I dreamed it up. My family and church are the adults that took my options, didn't know I had right to prosecute when older. Fast forward to marriage and kids and seeing a healthy child's upbringing it brought it all back and there is nothing I can do except know he got away with it and probably did it again. The people that didn't report it should be in jail too.
My stepfather currently lives a care free life after bestowing years of sexual abuse on me. When reported to welfare at age 13 nothing was done. The man openly admitted to my mother that he had been molesting me. My mother advocated for this man and no charges were brought against him. I was not removed from the home either. I also have two younger siblings that were living with me at the time. I grew up in fear! The psychological effects are horrific. But it gets better. My stepfather also molested my brother in his teen years. I believe this to be the reason why he molested my children. He is currently serving time in prison for his acts. But the man that caused all of this still roams free. That is due in part to the failure of the system when the acts were reported and also the fear that we victims must face in order even think about prosecuting. By the time I had the nerve, anger, or even belief that some one might actually help my statute had run out. I live with the fact that the man has impacted my family on the deepest most disturbed level and will never be held accountable for his actions.... and families are left to rebuild. History has shown that he is a repeat offender and I am positive he will offend again.... Only then when he harms another child will something be done.
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Just like murder, there should be no statute of limitations on felony child molestation. Noone has heard me, I was molested (the P.O.S. stuck his tongue down my throat) as a very young 7 year old child in front of my best friend who was the same age. I am positive I had PTSD after that. I was scared to death of saying anything because he was scary and also my mothers friend. I told my mother about 5 years after that - SHE DID NOTHING. And therefore I did nothing because she ignored it after that and said, well, he is being prosecuted for other sexual assault so he is going to jail anyway.
After 27 years of carrying this around, I have the courage to stand up against the man who traumatized me and took away my childhood. And this courage sometimes comes late due to other childhood abuse that was present in my home growing up.
This guy murdered my childhood and robbed me of mental well being. I finally have the courage to come forward.
I was molested by my older brother Charles Nelson from the time that I was 6 till 12. I told my mother about it and she called me a lair. My younger brother Roger Nelson remember the molestation. Nothing was done in my case therefore, it left him free to get married have a daughter and molest her. She told my mother (which I call Lavene now) about it and got slapped across the face. She does not talk to any of the family and has not seen them in years and I have not talked to them or seen them in 10 years. The problem I have is that he has another daughter by another woman. What do you think will happen to her?
When i was 6 my mother molested me an so did her boyfriend not at the same time but on separate occasions. This was between 89-92 fortunately for the rest of the world her boyfriend went on to do it to other peoples children an was thrown off a mountain in the hills of Puerto Rico where he finally seen his judgment day to spend eternity burning in hell for all the children hes done this to.as for my mother i came forth as a child to the schools about her boyfriend but my mother is a master manipulator an told me as a kid to go back to school an tell them it was a lie or ill be taken by cps an put into foster care an never see my family again.i finally in 2005 came out completely with everything that he did to me she took no responsibility for her actions as well my mother would make me perform oral on her fuckin sick bitch i never told anyone about my mother until 2 weeks ago as my father had bad drug issues an wasn't around much but when he was i was very clingy to him bc i hated them both an knew as a child it was wrong but the thought of foster care an being bounced around the court system scared me shitless.so i started getting high by the age of 8-9yrs old to escape reality huffing smoking weed pretty much anything to suppress the awful shit ive been through. I went to councilors therapy seen all kinds of drs to talk about my life it never helped.all they did was teach me to put all my bad thought in the back of my head i grew up hating my mother an never coming forth with what she done but if i could go back id definitely put it all on the table an just deal with foster care an the court system it would've been better than living with her.now that i just came out an said something about my mother now the rest of my family is calling me out for being a lier except my father who got himself clean in 94 an been ever since tells me she had cheated on him with her own cousins cousin who was 16 when she was 25 witch was around the same time she had done it to me.so when my father heard this he knew i wasn't lyin because the details are so on point he said only someone who was with her would know.i want to seek justice an im willing to take polygraphs what ever just to show my family im not lying. Heres the fuckin ringer shes got a masters degree in law shes smart an knows all the loop holes an works for the division of parole sad huh a criminal working with nothing but criminals.my parents are finally getting a divorce not because of the things i came forth with but bc she attacked my father with a knife while feeding my 1yr old nephew he was able to get the knife from her an had her locked up on 12/23/14 shes facing cps charges of child endangerment an assault. Shes now trying to ruin whats left of a family an go for broke like she hasn't caused enough damage for 10 lifetimes but truly believes she was wronged. Having power turnd off in a house with kids as well as the water if thats not child abuse idk what is.ducking on cps an trying to have all of us evicted out of a house she never paid one red cent towards an my father is the mortgage holder so she could mover her an her 11yr affair in a home me an my father built.wanna talk about a low life piece of shit skell my mother has an always been a cancer to our family...
I was molested by my best friends dad when I was 7 til I was 9 and it affected me to no end and now I protect my kids from everything. The one person that helped me is now my boyfriend. I have known him my whole life and he even protected me when the guy who molested tried to hurt me. I never told anyone about it cuz I loved my best friend and my now boyfriend and didn't want shame brought on their family but now my boyfriends ex wife has her daughter accusing him of raping her. I have known this man for 26 years and he loved me when I was younger and he is only 5 years older than me and never laid a hand on me and his ex wants me to believe he raped this girl well I'm not buying it. He hasn't seen or even talked to his ex or her children for 7 years and now that he is happy with me she pulls this crap. I wish that people who actually molest children pay with their lives but those who are innocent should not have to pay for some vindictive bitch
Forgive~yes..Forget~NEVER! This will be my curse...My real father passed away when I was around 18 months old..My mother (which only wanted the best for me)..Meets and Marries a man named Lynn, when I was about 2 years old..He was a Sergeant Major, of the US Army..My mother 10 months later has my sister..Now with mom, sister(newborn)and step father Lynn we get stationed to Germany for the next 4 years..My life changed! Yes, we had the good life (far as money could buy)..but as a 3 year old little girl..my happiness faded away day by day! I called Lynn my dad..he was all I knew as a father, but at the same time felt no love from him at all! I felt pride Yes..we were a family of the US Army..at home it was Yes Sir, not ok dad. when Lynn would come home..first thing when he walked threw the door I felt fear! But truly I was not sure why..other than he would spank on the drop of a dime (yes, pulled into the bathroom..stripped/bent of toilet naked and paddled)..My mother had enough..she got into heated arguments with him about spankings (which she didn't believe was right)..but at night is when the real fear would set in..I would wake up (almost nightly) screaming "he's going to get me or it's getting me"..when my mother would run to me...wake me up..I would be drenched in sweat crying..she would ask me about "what was getting me"..but I could not answer..I was even taken to the hospital a few times thinking something is wrong, ie kidney infection or my appendix had ruptured..only for them to send us home with no answers. When I was about 6 1/2 we got stationed back in the US (MI)..Only months later Lynn came home and told my mother "I want a divorce" my mother lost it..she could not understand why..so she asked him if it was cuz another woman..Lynn replied "no"..well during their divorce I continued to have nightmares, stomach problems (even bleeding ulcers) but by then my mother thought it was brought on from the divorce (per doctors thinking)..turns out Lynn found a new family to torcher..and soon remarried this woman (which also had a child before meeting Lynn)..so now he has one daughter he has fathered and two step children(me and new little brother Jackie)...fast forward a few years (still nightmares but not as often) I'm now 11, my sister 9, my brother 8 and now a new sister (Chrissy) 1..this is when life really started to change..I start to bloom as a preteen..now Lynn starts to try to buy me (like all women)..but I looked up to him with such pride, after all my dad was Sergeant Major! and he would tell me.."See these strips ..three of them! they mean I AM GOD!!!" as he would place my fingers on each stripe..in the next few years Lynn and his new family get stationed to a few diff states..finally to get stationed at FT Lynardwood MO,..now I'm 13 ..fully bloomed as a young lady..I'm asked to stay with them for a few weeks during the summer because I'm needed to babysit my brother and two sisters..Lynn's wife (Jeanie) was flying out to CO to have surgery and will be gone for a week or so...Ok! Now Lynn comes in for the kill..shows me the car in the garadge, baby blue camaro) which he states will be mine when I get my DL..all seems good...a few days later Jeanie leaves to go shopping for new clothes for her trip and I'm left to watch the kids..I'm sitting in the living room, on the floor going threw family photo albums with Jackie and Stacey..all good right? No!, photo's of Lynn, Jeanie and many many others naked fall out from behind other pic's..I turn red, I scoop the photo's up and hide them from my little brother and sister.. my sister (age 10) and Jackie (age 8 1/2) ...CONTINUED
CONTINUED..Well out of trying to save face here..I send Stacey and Jackie up stairs to play (Chrissy is sleeping, napping she is almost 3) ..about an hour later (while watching General Hospital, haha) I hear Stacey scream "I hate you, don't ever talk to me again" then the bedroom door slams!..I run upstairs to see what they are fighting about and to scold them for waking up their little sis Chrissy!..I go to Stacey and ask her what is going on..she said..I hate him..he is a lier! I said why? Stacey said to me.."he was saying bad things about dad!"..so I go to Jackies room..ask him why and what he said..Jackie (playing with his little cars and army men) looks up at me and just starts telling me things that I could not believe my ears were hearing!!! How from the time he was 3 years old, while they were in Hawaii, That Lynn would make him rub vasaline on Lynn's peepee and would make him lick it off ect...(I really can't in words say all) it's just too sick!!..I told Jackie (mind you I'm 13 and now in shock) Stay in your room until your mom gets home..and I shut the door..I went down stairs to await Jeanie's return from shopping..she walks in.."How's the kids behaving for you?"..I looked at her with eye's that must have looked crazy..I asked her to sit down..and I began to tell her what Jackie said..then I stopped yelled for Jackie to come down stairs and tell his mother what he told me and Stacey..Jackie comes to the top of the stairs and like a "little man" straight faced says "SHE ALREADY KNOWS!" Jeanie then yells at Jackie go to your room..I look at Jeanie as if I just landed on the moon "WTF"..She gives me a warm smile and says.."he is a trouble boy..and says all kinds of crazy things"..I hide pretty much the rest of the night..4am..Jeanie fly's out to CO Lynn goes to work and I'm with the kids..by now the only thing running threw my mind is.."I want to go home!" But home is in MI, We are in MO! That eve (which forever changed my life!)...6 pm, Lynn walks threw the door..I'm watching HBO (how cool was that, we didn't have cable yet to our area at home) I fixing dinner and Lynn say's..does your mom let you watch HBO?? I tell him I'm not sure..we don't have cable..later 9pm..Lynn asked me to put the kids to bed..ok, so I do..I sit down start watching a movie on HBO which was rated R..Lynn asked me..Does your mom let you watch rated R movies? Ummm, I guess so, she does when she is home I guess..Lynn then replies "does your mom let you watch rated X movies?..I (being very young and stupid say..What's a rated X movie?? he then says O...you don't know what a rated X movie is?..I look up at Lynn..NO! I start watching the movie (it was some french love story) but anyways I see Lynn go to the hall closet and start pulling out this projector and rolls of film..he starts setting it up..I go upstairs..brush my teeth and put on my T-shirt (love's baby soft brand) PJ's..come back down stairs thinking ok, yea we are going to watch a movie!..wellllll Lynn turns it on..OMG WTF...I pull the huge floor throw pillow over me, curl into a small ball while fear engulfs me! Lynn then walks to the small bathroom next to the stairs (I need to run up) and gets undressed.....I start to cry..he approaches me..telling me truly awful things like how he want to please me...At this point I wanted so bad to run...but run where? and how do I get my brothers and sisters out with me??..I freak..I push him..and run up the stairs!!..I jump into bed with my baby sister Chrissy (age 3)..close my eye's ..thinking it will all go away..if he just don't walk threw that door!..next in the dark bedroom I hear.."Brooke..Brooke..I know you are not asleep!"..He touches me..I cling tighter to Chrissy!!!..Finally he leaves with the words..I didn't mean to scare you!..CONTINUED
CONTINUED ..The next day..I won't leave the room until he is gone to work...My mom calls.."Brookie, How's the kids??" I start to cry..Mommy..PLEASE I WANT TO COME HOME! "O Brookie, what's wrong? You never want to come home?!" "Are you just missing your friends?"..NO PLEASE MOMMY I WANT TO COME HOME! Well, needless to say this continues for the next 5 days, with each night getting a little worse that the last..and the plea's to go home continue..I become NUMB/COLD..My little sister Stacey starts yelling at me "you are being very mean to dad!"..I do say a word..Jeanie comes home..bearing gifts!..I don't even bother to say a word to her..it's clear now..NO HOPE! The next day..me and my sister Stacey fly out to MI (home)..at the airport..my sister gives her dad a big kiss (which I'm holding her hand and won't let go) she say's goodbye..I JUST TURN AWAY!..Stacey for the next two hours scolds me on how mean that was to not give dad a kiss goodbye or even thank him..I drift off out the airplane window..NOW NUMB/COLD/LOST/HURT...I get home..run upstairs and lock myself in my room for the next two full day's (with earphones on listening to Air supply)..The next part is me wishing to DIE! Continued
CONTINUED..My mother after day's trying to talk to me..finally corners me coming out of the bathroom..'SIT DOWN BROOKE..TELL ME WHAT HAPPENED!" I couldn't get the words out..I love my mother so much..I would not be able to bear the pain of seeing her hurt!!! But she was not about to give up..finally I muttered a few words of what happened..My mother OMG!! My Mother..she started to shake and cry!..My step dad (which she had been married to now for 5 plus years) come running out..he was going to load his shotgun and go shoot Lynn!..The next few months were just as bad (the day's I was flung into hell)...I stopped eating..I had a death wish..but being young and being raised Baptist believing "if you kill yourself it's the worst sin against God you could commit" SO I HAD A PLAIN! A stupid and young/dumb plain!!...I WILL OUT SMART GOD, IF I DON'T EAT WELL I DIE FROM POOR HEALTH NOT SUICIDE??? RIGHT?? NOOOOOOOO! So now the trips to the doctors begin..Believe me when I say..My mom only tried to save me..but she didn't know how..mostly because I had it in my head that..IF I COULD NOT EVEN TELL MY MOM..WHY O WHY WOULD I TELL A STRANGER..A PERSON THAT IS GETTING PAID BIG BUCKS TO TALK TO ME..ANYTHING? If you can't even be protected by people of this world that clearly love you...why would I believe I'd be protected by them??..Now the real torcher..I had to go in front of a Judge..OMG!..My own mother didn't even hear the fowl words, now I'm to tell a Judge!..So I was told to make a diary...of each day..what happened (from the nude pic's to the rapping of Jackie to the rapping of me) ALL OF IT...well I did just that..and the worst was my mother had to read them..tears are flowing!!! CONTINUED....
CONTINUED...now they even began adding doctors that dealt with eating disorders! Again and again I was made to face this! Making me colder/numb/sad/helpless..which leads me to the next sarow ...My sisters..My brother! First..my brother Jackie..He was left to the pits of hell..My mother did try to see if they could do anything about Jackie..but because his mother Jeanie not only knew of these things but allowed it..The Judge said that unless Jeanie comes forth we could not do anything for Jackie! WTF..Jackie was told by his mother.."some Military Men may come by and ask you some question Jackie" Jackie "Mom, what should I say?"..Jeanie "You say whatever you want to say" NEEDLESS TO SAY~THEY NEVER CAME...now leads me to my sister Stacey..which she was only left with hate..hate that she would never see her father again..Hate that she was not the worry of anyone..meaning ...my mother was to busy trying to save my life...Stacey was to young at the time to be told why she could not see her father again..now how..how do you tell a 10 year old little girl..you don't!..and she was left to worry on weather or not her big sister was going to die..I mean she heard it over and over..YOU SEE..I HAD TO LIVE WITH THIS..LEAVING A LITTLE BROTHER TO A WOLF..LEAVING A LITTLE SISTER ALL ALONE!..now the the courts...after all this..the Judge called me to his chambers and asked me.."what can I do..How can I help you make this go away!"..CRYING CRYING CRYING ..MY ONLY MUMBLE WAS.......PLEASE PLEASE DON'T GIVE HIM A CHANCE TO EVER EVER DO THIS TO MY LITTLE SISTER AS HE HAS DONE TO ME AND JACKIE!!!!..So do you know what this WOLF..THIS DEMON GOT?...hmmm He was made to give up all legal rights to my sister..he was ordered to not live in the same state as me or my sister until we were over 18 years of age and finally...per the Military..he was made to retire..YES I SAID RETIRE..NOT LOCKED UP IN MILITARY JAIL OR LOSS OF MILITARY PAY/PENSION..JUST RETIRE..ALL THIS TO SAVE FACE OF THE MILITARY! One last part.....the out come CONTINUED...
CONTINUED...threw out the remaining years of my teens (which should have been so of my best years of life)..I battled eating disorders, failing school grades, loss of friends, torn family, shame guilt and an over all loss of the will for life! I ran away many times as a teen..I could not look my mother in the face (ever again) ..I chased everyone that ever loved/cared about me away..I learned to lie and lie some more about HOW I FELT AND HOW LIFE WAS FOR ME..I still run to this day..but I will say..after running and running..I only became a healthy person by : A) people that loved me not giving up B) growing up, learning you can't always change things in life, but in fact you can change things that are yet to be...You see this man not only robbed me..but so so so many others! He was/is a predator! So do I feel he should have to "pay for" all those that lost so much to him...Yes!..It's not really so cut and dry as to when and how many years pass, before it's to late to do anything..because I feel in my heart that I would have only hurt more people ..shamed more family's if I would have pressed this in court earlier in life (I was not healthy enough inside to do this anyways)..not only did I need time to heal..but so did so many others! But the flip side of this is..This man was raping me and Jackie from the age of 3 on..he prayed upon other women that had children..he prayed upon children from other countries(all while he filmed it)..and he hid behind the good name of United States Military!..See at the beginning of this ...I stated to you all.........FORGIVE YES~FORGET NEVER!..I and my brother both ended up working for JDC (kiddie jail) working with troubled children..we both have girls..and we both WATCH THEM LIKE A HAWK!..but knowing this Wolf in sheeps skin is watching and waiting..for a mother's trust..kills me every day!..thank you for reading this..xoxo Brooke
Ps ^^^^^^ I'm very sorry for all the typo's/spelling errors ..I was trying to type and wipe tears away at the same time;-(
The person below is also a child molester! Galindo Reyes
521 Bangs Street
Aurora, Illinois
Molested a step daughter at 10 years of age
I was molested at 12 I'm 22 now is it to late?
I'm 45 years old. I was molested by my brother when I was around 7-10. He is 6 years older than me. He would tell me not to tell anyone because they would send him away and I'd never see him again. So I never said anything. It has had such an effect on my life, in a bad way. While I have never been diagnosed, I'm pretty sure I have PTSD. I remember everything he did to me. Every time he touched me. I even remember what I was wearing and what he smelled like. It makes me sick just thinking about now. I wish I had told my mom or dad what he did to me, but I didn't want to hurt my mom. She would have been devastated. I tried counseling, and thought I was okay, but I'm truly not. He's a bully and I wish there was some recourse for what he did to me when I was a little girl. But the reality is, there is nothing I can do.. other than live a nightmare.
The rest of the day he hid like a child in his room. Now you tell me that he monster who did this deserves a break, my boyfriend has not had a break since he was 8 years old and he will never until the day he dies. The other boys will never have a break. NEVER. You are sick and I cant believe you would honestly boast about working in washington. Its corrupt people with your warped way of thinking that got this country in the mess we are now. And let me remind you, two things in the bible that Jesus said never hurt... his WIDOWS AND HIS LITTLE CHILDREN. HE WAS A HELPLESS CHILD. NOW HE IS A HUMILIATED CONFUSED AND HELPLESS ADULT . I hope your children never have to pay for your sins.
Glenn Ray Michalak at 1410 Smith Rd. Huffman, TX 77336, is a child molestor - it happened to me.
How do I ask a question about something that happen to me
No. Laws have changed and you have 30 years from the time you turned 18.
What states is this valid for?
I lied as a kid. I'm sure you did too. Kids and adults lie all the time. In the 1950's your entire life and career could be destroyed by one person saying you were a communist. That dynamic is alive and well but now all it takes is an angry or jealous 12 year old to accuse you of something inappropriate and your entire life is ruined, even if it comes out it was a complete and total fabrication. The accused has to hire an attorney guilty or innocent and is destroyed socially and usually financially. And the accuser ? They get to walk away scot-free. Remember Al Sharpton and TaWana Brawley? The huge Rolling Stone slam piece on fraternity rape at University of Virginia that turned out to be a complete fabrication ? Google 'false rape charge' if you are curious what goes on. It is hard enough to defend yourself against a current false rape charge but now you want people to be able to wait 40 years, THEN accuse someone of rape? How can someone possibly defend themselves against a false rape charge 40 years after the fact?
I am so sorry for all of you. My daughter has had a nightmare as well. She was molested by our neighbors son from the age of around 6 - 14. They were like family. She told us when she was 17 - we weren't sure what to do. We got advise from lawyers and had them speak with her so she could make a decision - we wanted her to know how the law might handle it. Of course they spoke about it's your word against his...they were clear they weren't saying they didn't believe her...and we do!!! They were explaining how she may be treated and how hard it may be on her. She decided not to report it because it seemed hopeless. Now 4 years later she is still in so much pain and devastation but in NY I believe the statute of limitations is up. This is crazy...can anyone give advice what we should do...what can we do to help heal?? Are there organizations where you can speak out to help others would that help?? Please anything is welcome. Again...God Bless you all - you are all surviors and stronger than you realize. Do not allow the pig that hurt you continue to hurt you...you can have the power back now-try and move forward. xo
This is an important message to those of you who has a relative, son, daughter who was sexually molested at an early age and the ripple effects from that incident that have affected her relationships to this day, at 55 years of age. My wife was molested when she was eight years old by uncle who is 14 at the time. I meant why work when she was 16 years old bagging groceries for her. We dated for 10 years, mostly because when we got close emotionally she would break up with me. After having dated many different people we got back together after not seeing each other for year. I still loved her. Three years after marriage we have a daughter and this is when the problems began. She became increasingly distant emotionally and physically, blaming and gaslighting very small circumstances as a means to disassociate, she used her agitation what she uses a means to disassociate from me physically and mentally. Affection was used as a reward and a punishment. I could feel the timidness and lack of comfort in hugging, kissing, touching and making love. I have been sensitive to what she had went through to the point of discussing with my professors in college the situation so I could better understand and be sensitive to any special needs, I did this with all good intent so I could make her feel at ease and loved. She, however took it as an invasion of her privacy and was offended by it. Fast forward to when our daughter was born in our third year of marriage, I saw a therapist because the lack there was a lack of emotional and physical intimacy in our marriage, I did not feel love from her only toleration. She had difficulty with emotional expressions of her feelings and thoughts expressing love and physical expressions of love or affection. She attended one therapy session and stopped out when the therapist asked her about being molested. We made two other attempts at marriage counseling, and total to three years worth, once a week. The result has 28 years of marriage +10 years of dating and our marriage couldn't be any worse. The problems with emotional and physical intimacy on any level is almost completely gone and has been replaced with frustration anger, deceit and revenge, We have seen three different counselors marriage therapists During the course of our 28 years of marriage and she still has been unable to maintain any long-term periods of emotional and physical intimacy. The longest being two months. To those of you on the site whose daughters or sons were molested, if you have any hope for them to have a happy marriage then I wholeheartedly suggest beginning. Counseling as soon as possible.
THAT'S THE PROBLEM... WE NEED TO NOT LET SLEEPING DOGS LIE... I AM TIRED OF NIGHTMARES THE PAIN THE HURT SO WHY LET THE DOGS LIE.. WHEN I CAN'T EVEN LIE IN PEACE LET THEM BE EXPOSED AS THE SICK WORTHLESS PIECE OF CRAP MEN AND WOMEN THEY ARE AND LET THEM HAVE TO PAY IF AT ALL POSSIBLE IF NOT LET IT BE KNOWN IF THEY ARE AROUND SHOUT OUT TO THE PUBLIC FOR ALL TO HEAR WHAT SICKOS THEY ARE AND LET IT BE KNOWN THAT THIS IS WHO IM TALKING ABOUT .POST THEIR PICTURES ON PUBLIC PLACES IF THE LAWS SAY IT'S LEGAL WHERE YOU LIVE... I JUST FEEL KEEPING QUIET HURTS MORE INNOCENT LIVES AND CAUSES US THE ABUSED TO CONTINUE IN OUR PAIN I'VE LIVE IN MINE FOR 41 YEARS I'M 47 I'M SICK ON TOP OF THE PAIN I'VE ENDURED THROUGHOUT MY LIFE AND STILL AM ENDURING FROM OTHER ISSUES ... IT'S JUST WRONG ..... MY HEART HURTS FOR EVERY ONE OF YOU ... JUST KNOW U ARE NOT ALONE AS I HAVE FELT MANY
TIMES I JUST NEED TO SAY YOU ARE NOT ALONE ...
I'll start with me being around 10or11
years olded my family had plans to go to a wedding i couldn't go because one
of my three years old twins a sister and we couldn't find one of the shoe so
i was the one who had to stay home with
the twins and my step father my step
dad slept on the third floor me and the
was sleeping on the second floor bedroom I was sleeping went i was Woking up go from the sound of my dad
caming my name in my sleep but in my
sleep i don't realized that my father
was calling out to me because i was holling in my sleep when I realized i
open my eyes and i realize my uncle was
walking fast away from my bed i had left my t.v. on over night witch was
something i always did.I was sleeping
on the side of the bed away from the
door my lil brother was sleeping next
to the door my sister was in the middle
of the bed and i was sleeping next to
the Window so when my dad was calling me i open my eyes and seen my uncle walking fast from around my bed i didn't realize that was going on i turned my head to see him go in the room next to the room. me and the twins
was sleeping in my father is still holling to the top of his voice i didn't know why so i got the baby up
and ran up to the third floor when we
enter my mom and dad room my dad hollered so loud i looked around thinking someone was in back of us but
as i turned round my parents mirror that sat on the dresser as my eyes connected with the mirror i seen a monster looking back at me i told my
family everything that happened but
know one carry me too see a doctor they
but i was took to my house with a ace bandage around my head my i never seen
my uncle at my aunt's home again and
know one talked about it ever again
for so many years i need understand the
story be behind this evil act again me.
I had to solve this evil act against me
It took me so many year to put this evil together I'm not shore how many
month went by or if it was a year or
not.I can find out when the baby dieed
but i not sure did he atacked me four
or five months or more .All i know at
this point I have no relationship with
my family.Me are my Children the hold
family act like they hate me and my grandchildren donot have a relationship
with my family my number is 6105515236
Please leave your number so i can talk
to someone Thankyou for this web site
so much to talk about I also never went
past the 9th grade because i couldn't
read or do math thank God for this phone that help me with my spelling
Humm
I have a sister with what seems your level of abuse. Her trauma about as minimal as yours. Far different than my daughters or others here.
I told my mother after it happened and she said not to mention it to anyone. It was the typical thing to do back in the day...sweep it under the carpet because God forbid someone be uncomfortable and it cause a riff in the family. I recently found out that two other family members had it happen to them as well. They also told their parents and were basically told to do the same thing I was told to do. Now being in my 40's there is nothing I can do. I was always to afraid to say anything. I wish there was a site victims could go to and post initials of their rapist/molesters name and the city they live in. I think more people would report if they knew that others had been victimized by the same person. It is my understanding that it is slander to put their name out there even though it is the truth. It scares someone to think they will go through not being believed or ostracized by their own families.
I am 47 years old. I am just now thinking that I should not be embarrassed by this secret anymore. My molester, 40 years ago, not immediate family member fathered a cousin i love very much and do not wish to hurt her. I grieve the little girl that noone cared to save
Myself, my daughter and my cousin were all molested at the age of 15 and by the same man, my sisters husband. My molestation happened in the fall of 1971. My cousin the following year and my daughter in 1990. My mother was aware of all of us and told no one because of her relationship with my sister. Same reason for we 3 girls. On top of that my mother walked into him "grooming" my Granddaughter who was in 5th grade at that time. In August 2014 the shit hit the fan (as my mother describes it) and we all found out about each other including the entire family which consists only of my sisters and mine. I need legal help. Whether or not my cousin and daughter want to prosecute? I do. Please reply with legal info as of May 8, 2016
I'm sorry to have posted Anonymous. I had to consider the ramifications of publishing publicly, yet know you need my info to reply. I am the person above previous comment. Please pm me on facebook. Ellyn LaVine
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Things need to be proven. Anyone could accuse anyone of anything, just because they get mad...what happened to innocent until proven guilty.
Amen!!!!
I posted what happened to myself and two other family members all being molested by the same family member hoping to get info/help. Since, I have found this just to be just a blog site. Not only that, but have found there IS NO LONGER A STATUTE OF LIMITATIONS in regard to child molestation anywhere here in the States. To get legal help you'll first need to report your abuse or who you're reporting for in the State and City where the offense took place. If you're not looking to prosecute you may find help, therapy or counseling where you live. Good Luck to you all and may you find peace in your decision whatever it may be in the future.
Ellyn LaVine
You are correct, but let it be known there is no longer a Statute of limitations in regard to child molestation anywhere here in the States.
You are correct, but let it be known there is no longer a Statute of limitations in regard to child molestation anywhere here in the States.
That's up to the authorities to handle. A jealous 12 year old is easily figured out by the authorities. And btw, the reason why most girls and women do not report child molestation is also easily figured out by the authorities. Let them do their job. Sounds to me like you where one of the fraternity boys. How else would you remember that.
And this is about child molestation. Not rape!. Big difference there.
And you're still not married to your boyfriend afyer all these years? And you don't ask why? And you yourself are a victim of child molestation? Child molestation is not rape. Sounds to me like your boyfriend has problems/issues of his own and many secrets he's hiding. Also sounds to me that you're biased when it comes to him. Maybe you need to ask yourself some tough questions and need to ask him some too. Child molesters are predators anx never ad.it their guilt. It's only when they are convicted is when they're FORCED to get help and still they will not admit they're guilty! You need a new boyfriend before it's too late to become someone's wife!
I was sexually assaulted at the age of 14 (i am now 39) I reported it the same day it happened although it was later in the evening went thru the exams at the hospital police notified never heard anything else (part of me believes my mother had something to do with it to try to keep peace in the family because the guy was her sis boyfriend) my aunt stayed with him my family continued to deal with him regardless of how i felt my aunt passed away 2012 and now my other aunt (her sister) is dating him I've tried to find out how come nothing was ever done how come OCY or social services never stepped in where was my protection cuz obviously my parents was not providing it (life's of alcoholics) but I couldn't get answers apparently records are destroyed in p.a. after 20 years if it's not a murder so I'll never get justice n he continues to live his life as if he has no worries i often think about creating a page on social network for people to publicize these sick perverts the ones who were brought to justice and the ones who weren't I also have been thinking about posting flyers at his job (a hospital) and around our city
I was sexually assaulted at the age of 14 (i am now 39) I reported it the same day it happened although it was later in the evening went thru the exams at the hospital police notified never heard anything else (part of me believes my mother had something to do with it to try to keep peace in the family because the guy was her sis boyfriend) my aunt stayed with him my family continued to deal with him regardless of how i felt my aunt passed away 2012 and now my other aunt (her sister) is dating him I've tried to find out how come nothing was ever done how come OCY or social services never stepped in where was my protection cuz obviously my parents was not providing it (life's of alcoholics) but I couldn't get answers apparently records are destroyed in p.a. after 20 years if it's not a murder so I'll never get justice n he continues to live his life as if he has no worries i often think about creating a page on social network for people to publicize these sick perverts the ones who were brought to justice and the ones who weren't I also have been thinking about posting flyers at his job (a hospital) and around our city
I am a 43 year old man I was n addict of some type from 13 I knew a family friend that would do things for me buy toys take me places I had a stay over and that was when it started he caught me coming out of the shower told me it was natural asked if I wanted to watch a movie then he put in a dirty movie turns our it was taboo porn I was scared he convinced me that it was natural and noone could know keep in mind I was 11 but he proceeded to touch me and put me in his mouth after that he wanted me around all the time I was still scared what do I do was what i remember thinking I can't tell my parents they will injure him so I kept it in and my life has been a train wreck every sense therapy jail. The man has cancer and he said he wanted to help me but there is nothing he can give me unless it is my innocence and that wont happen. I need to know what I can do legally not harmful to his person cause I know anyone with the same situation would have already killed the man.please help if u can with how to deal with this man thank u
I was molested by my brother. I was 6 years old. Everytime my parents were to go out, I would beg them not to. I was always intimated by my brother. I'm sorry to say God, but I hate my brother. I'm an older woman now, I think about this all the time. I went to therapy when I was in my 30's. It didn't help. He never said he was sorry, acted like nothing ever happened. I will always remember this, it will never go away.
Hi I'm 38 now and I was raped by my dad when I was younger raped throwed down the stairs throwed through walls beat with switches belts fist to my face head etc and now I'm 38 and I'm still struggling with alot of stuff can i sue my dad for this
My fiance step daughter said that he used to give her oral and put his penis between her legs never penetrated her when she was 12 years old now she is 26 with 3 kids and has told her grandmother this was going on she had remained in contact with him all these years and she has been living with this pain thru want to press charges against him which I don't blame them, but what my question is how does this work? If it's her word against his? What if there is no proof? How does the justice system work in these cases?
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My ex wife was molested and raped by her grandfather, her dad , and her two brothers .During.g our relationship I have tried numerous times to have her go seek counciling on the matter ,but never did... I seriously believe this has alot to do with our divorce... Can I sue them for the situation or not? And if so ,how do I go about it??
I was abused from my mother's brother. Went to a children home and they knew about the abuse and didn't report it. Not only did they knew they gave me back to my mother.
I also was molested by both of my brothers when i was 6. They were 12 and 14. They knew what they were doing. Asking me to stick their penis in my mouth and play with them. I still cringe with them touching me. My mom told me they've done it before but she never told me that. Now i want to say something about what happened and one of my brothers said he was young and didn't know better. How in the hell do you mean you didn't know better because you were young. My dad said i shouldn't ruin their lives and say something about it. I don't know what to do. It saddens me.
I agree with you and I am so sorry this happened to you. What a horrible thing to have experienced. I was molested by my uncle when I was a little girl and it has affected my entire life negatively. It's difficult for me to have any type of relationship that lasts and I see sex as dirty and disgusting. I don't have any trust in me whatsoever. What makes it doubly bad is when I was a little girl my mother noticed something was wrong and screamed at me and told me to stop it myself. I was six years old.
I need to clarify. I have no trust in "men" whatsoever.
What is wrong with people??? This is inexcusable and heartbreaking.
When I was a little, 5 year old girl my uncle molested me. Not only did my uncle molest me but my mother knew about it and blamed me. I'm much older now and it still affects every aspect of my life and every relationship I try to have in a very negative way. I have not been able to maintain a relationship because of this and it has dramatically affected my self-esteem throughout my life because it was never confronted or brought out. This type of abuse creates a split in a person that cannot be healed. I was a 5 year old child and what my uncle did to me felt extremely disgusting and wrong but his touch also excited me in a sexual way "I did not understand" and that is where the horrible split is created in a person. In one way I felt pleasure but the other side of me knew without a way of understanding or getting away from the fact that it was terribly, horribly, disgustingly wrong. This is the horrible thing that it does. I can't feel good about sexual relations with anyone. To this day I'm told and screamed at that I am a negative person but I grew up in such negativity I don't know how to be any other way. What happened to me has practically destroyed my entire life. My mother told me recently that I was inexcusably negative. That has completely broken my heart. I still want to believe someone actually, truly cares about me, especially the person who is supposed to care about me the most. She has made excuses and some of them I have accepted to a point at times because I want it so badly for her to really love me. How is someone to recover from such a heinous thing? I don't have children because I didn't want to put a child through any type of pain, no matter what it was because I didn't trust anyone I have ever been with enough to relinquish and go forward. It has completely robbed me of a normal life, yet the people who did this to me are allowed to go on happily and have good lives. At this point in my life I'm beyond myself over it and hurt beyond belief. I am 56 years old now and alone and terrified. Crazy what this does to a person and their life. For me there is no punishment that is too severe for someone who molests a child. And there is no punishment severe enough for a person who allows this to happen to their child. I would want to severely punished someone who harmed my cat, let alone a child I may have been able to have if this had not happened to me.
When I was a little, 5 year old girl my uncle molested me. Not only did my uncle molest me but my mother knew about it and blamed me. I'm much older now and it still affects every aspect of my life and every relationship I try to have in a very negative way. I have not been able to maintain a relationship because of this and it has dramatically affected my self-esteem throughout my life because it was never confronted or brought out. This type of abuse creates a split in a person that cannot be healed. I was a 5 year old child and what my uncle did to me felt extremely disgusting and wrong but his touch also excited me in a sexual way "I did not understand" and that is where the horrible split is created in a person. In one way I felt pleasure but the other side of me knew without a way of understanding or getting away from the fact that it was terribly, horribly, disgustingly wrong. This is the horrible thing that it does. I can't feel good about sexual relations with anyone. To this day I'm told and screamed at that I am a negative person but I grew up in such negativity I don't know how to be any other way. What happened to me has practically destroyed my entire life. My mother told me recently that I was inexcusably negative. That has completely broken my heart. I still want to believe someone actually, truly cares about me, especially the person who is supposed to care about me the most. She has made excuses and some of them I have accepted to a point at times because I want it so badly for her to really love me. How is someone to recover from such a heinous thing? I don't have children because I didn't want to put a child through any type of pain, no matter what it was because I didn't trust anyone I have ever been with enough to relinquish and go forward. It has completely robbed me of a normal life, yet the people who did this to me are allowed to go on happily and have good lives. At this point in my life I'm beyond myself over it and hurt beyond belief. I am 56 years old now and alone and terrified. Crazy what this does to a person and their life. For me there is no punishment that is too severe for someone who molests a child. And there is no punishment severe enough for a person who allows this to happen to their child. I would want to severely punished someone who harmed my cat, let alone a child I may have been able to have if this had not happened to me.
I need to clarify. I have no trust in "men" whatsoever.
I was 15 he was 21,he forced me to have sex,I got pregnant ,he told my mom he did cause he loved and wanted to marry me, my mom planned a wedding for me ,I wish she would have just pressed charges on him,I stayed married to this monster for three years ,he beat me everyday would lock me in the closet ,he would tell me if I told he would take my child from me and I would never see my daughter again ,I was so scared that I never told ,when I turned eighteen I got away from him with my child,I got a divorce and he was ordered to pay child supprort ,I didn't want child support from him so that he would just stay gone,thank god he never paid ,he actually hid from us ,which was great, all my life I have felt no good ,i had a child with another man ,the relationship ended as soon as I got pregnant,met another man and got pragnant again ,was not a good relation ship either so I had an abortion,hate myself for that ,met another man he married me and we had a child together ,I've been with this man for 30years ,it's been hard ,I find myself being mean to him,cause I've always thought men are no good,and I don't know why this man stays with me ,I've had nervous break downs ,I cry a lot and seems like the older I get the more hurt inside and the more my pass haunts me, I feel so much hate inside ,and I don't know why anymore,the man that hurt me for the rest of my life is under Brother Phil Garcia on face book ,he is now a pastor of some sort,he travels and lives in Ammon Jordan with his wife ,to me he is just a fake and a pervert,I hate him with everything I got,
I was 12 and my foster father grabbed me and tongue kissed me the week I got my first period. From there it was perversion after another. He disgusts me till this day. And he's 85 years old. My foster parents were church goers. But no one new. 😥
I was molested since I was 5 up until I was 17 I'm fine I have a hard time finding that these people who were molested can't function in life I think most of them use it as an excuse or so they can get attention I do not know I also know 2 others that have been molested and they also live a very normal life and have everything they want
So horrible. Innocent other children and parents need to be warned. Mario Asturi at 2121 Tuxedo Ave.
in Parma Ohio is a child molester
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